Is there such thing as bn happily married & cheatn?

You thought about it, but you didn't do it. What you have done here is appriciate the differnence between denial and restraint. You are not denying the attraction, but you are exercising restraint because you could percieve the long term benefits of being restrained. (I've given my spin on the dali lama here)

Just because you are married, that doesn't mean that all of the beautiful people in the world disappear. In saying that, flirting face to face and texting someone behind your husbands back is not really cool. I'm married, and still in contact with a couple of exes, but we don't talk about sex, ever, and I always let my hubby know if I have sent or recieved an email. Sometimes my heart beats a little faster when I talk to one in particular, but I have never acted on it, and my hubby knows. The difference is the honesty factor.

Good on you for declining the offer. You seem happy with your husband, so don't mess that up with a couple of flirty texts behind his back

Some men can not control their urges, if they want something they go for it. You may be an important part of his past, and talking to you only reminded him of who he was before he was married. As you may be able to remember beeen young and in love prior to marriage was a wonderful experience. He may want to re-live his younger days through you since only some in his past can stimulate certain feelings to make him feel young and desired.

Even if he has done this before, what are the chances it has been with a ex which would be some one with such a strong connection to him. You already know him, you understand him, being with an ex can seem easier because most of the hard work is out of the way. So even if he has done this before, with you would be different.

Yep. Its just plain old greedy in that you want more candy to eat.

I think spouses that cheat must have lots of time on their hands for this versus husband and wives that work 60 hours a week and just coming home dead tired and exhausted when you still have to clean around the house chores and tend the kiddos. Maybe you are wanting to escape the reality of marriage life on this for a little whiles. Don't know. Lots of forbidden, nasty, sinful, unthinkable things happens behind close doors. Depends if you are wanting to fill up your closet with nothing but dark secrets and skeleton bones.

Making time for that extra dollar for the family is far better and rewarding than wasting time on non sense matters.

The fact that you are contemplating infidelity is a bad sign. Why would you destroy what women are looking for in a marriage in the first place, which is to be HAPPILY MARRIED? It doesn't matter about whether he's done this before or not. All that is important is are you going to throw your marriage away behind some sexual fling? You need to re-evaluate what's important in your life before you lose everything you've been blessed to have. Don't do this.

Some people believe it's possible, there was one girl who put a question up about how she wasn't sure what to do because she was in love with 2 men and married to 1. Honestly I would say don't do it, think about what would happen if your husband found out. Would your family be happy? Think about your kids.

Simply put...don't do it! If you are happy with your husband...don't ruin a good thing. You are very lucky to be happily married. It is nice to be flattered by your ex love, but affairs cause problems and sometimes those problems are totally unforgivable. Been there done that!

I have been there. You just like the attention the other man is giving you. Sometimes the married life can be good but we may desire things that we used to do in the single life. But don't do it cause it ain't worth it. You should cut all contact with him for it is pn;y tempting you more and lusting is also cheating

Dont throw away your family for this cheater. All he wants is a BOOTY CALL. He probably does this to everyone he thinks will give it up. He is a no good cheating slime bag and you dont need to fall into his trap. You must be smarter than that. Think of your kids and how happy your family is and what would happen if youlost all of that and were alone. Sucks.

Being 'surprising' does not could propose being uninteresting. truthfully you may communicate approximately greater beneficial than merely 'how are you' without dropping your niceness? 'examine any good books recently?' 'Been to the movies this week?' 'Making something particular on your husband's birthday?' - those are good 'beginner point' communique starters. pass on from them to issues that relatively pastime and excite you. Expressing an opinion does not make you no longer 'surprising'.

Don't cheat. Get that nonsense out of your head. Chanel it to your husband where it belongs!