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ADVICE FOR AN UGLY GIRL WHO GETS MADE FUN OF CONSTANTLY??? 10 PTS!!?
I am a girl who has no confidence in herself at all. I feel I'm very ugly but yet my parents tell me I'm so gorgeous, the most beautiful girl in the world (haha yeah right) & that I could be a model. However, I can't find a date to prom. I asked around 20 guys last yr & none of them would go. I had to return my dress. This yr I have asked numerous guys & none of them will go. So I get to miss out on both my proms & look back & remember how I never went. Going with friends is NOT an option - no way, no how. My dad tells me he never went & he doesn't regret it but he's a guy! I have been dreaming about this day since I've been little. On top of that, I have talked to some of these guys on fb under a fake account asking questions about myself. They constantly point out my flaws to me & tell me how ugly I am. 1 guy told me I'm pale, have a pretty big nose, my eyelids are red as hell, & I have a fat roll. 1 guy told me I'm mousy & I'm going to die a virgin. I've had enough!! I am unhappy w/ the way I look & I don't need this on top of it. I hate the way I look! My parents just tell me "Oh, you look so gorgeous! Don't listen to them! They don't know what they're talking about." I can't take this anymore! I HATE the fact that I wear my hair in the same style every day, down and curly cause my parents won't take me to hair stylist to get some new hair styles. I wear barely any make-up & my parents are finally letting me go to Mac on Thursday after it's too late. I have been begging for this for years! My teeth are all messed up. I have a huge overbite & they just look horrible. I can't get braces cause I have a severe gag reflex. My parents told me if I don't get my teeth fixed, what's the point in fixing the rest of my flaws. If that isn't bad enough, they are yellow as well. I just can't take this anymore! I'm a senior in high school, have never been kissed, been on a date, or anything. Guys don't notice me & the ones who do just make fun of me. I just want to move away somewhere else & hope that the guys there are different. Plz don't say guys just judge on looks now but they will "get it" eventually. So what - I will go on my 1st date when I'm 40 when they "get it?" I just keep crying & cannot take this. Plz help me! Advice? Thx! Best answer - 10 pts!
Some (although barely any) of this advice is good. This is going to be tough finding a best answer.
And I'm not fat. I weigh 130 pounds. I have a "fat roll" that runs in the family. Even when I weighed 110 pounds, it was still there.
white eyeshadow? maybe I should join the circus.
19 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
oh honey I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. I was the same way. My teeth were screwed up (my nickname was toothless) I was pudgy, I had hair too short to make look good, I didn't know how to do my makeup...i was basically a non-hot mess. I had really low self esteem and horrible outlook on life. Everything got better when I went off to college. I made some really good friends who helped me figure out a good look for me and I got an awesome job with dental and vision benefits. I got my teeth fixed and whitened but not before I met my now husband. The best part is he fell in love with me before I got my teeth fixed and found my own personal style. Since I left high school, my life has improved 10-fold. I have an incredible husband, a 3 yr old daughter and a 2 month old baby boy. Just remember high sxhool is hard and you haven't even reached the best years of your life. It does get better dear. Good luck :]
- Anonymous5 years ago
I am sorry you are having these difficulties... It may be tough; but what your first step should be is to feel more confident. Sometimes people react differently to someone who is confident rather than shy. I'm a shy kind of girl as well, and I often had very similar experiences as you when I was in high school. Also - please remember you DO have strengths, there ARE positive things about you... I know it is hard not to pick apart your looks and want to be different. What I see from this message is someone who is frustrated with the way mean people are treating her; do not waste your time on those fools. And since you did want some advice... I can say one easy thing to "fix" is that you mention your teeth are yellow; there are plenty of whitening tooth pastes, or whitening stripes, or even cosmetic dentists that can whiten teeth. Take some time to mess around with your hair; maybe wear it in a bun one day or a pony tail... just doing things slightly differently may help you learn a new way to have your hair. You do have positive characteristics! It takes a strong person to ask for help. I hope what I've said has helped you feel better...
- Anonymous1 decade ago
People like you when you are fun to be around. Even ugly people have friends if they have a good personality. You need to quit taking yourself so seriously. If someone says you are mousy, say, yea, but mousy will go away where hatefulness is bone deep. Learn to laugh at yourself. Then people won't .
If you have a fat roll, you are fat; if you don't brush your teeth they get yellow, (or you can bleach your teeth) You can cut your own hair, just do it slowly so if you make a mistake it isn't really noticable.
You are a senior, you don't have to have your parents permission to get your hair cut. If you don't have money then get a $%^&* job.
Suck if up and have them spray your throat with chloraseptic to numb it and then put on the braces. Still don't know why a gag reflex would keep you from getting braces.
All of this is just an excuse. Why would you go on fb and pretend to be someone else so you could listen to what bad things people have to say about you. Are you a glutten for punishment?
Cut back and lose a little weight, stop feeling sorry for yourself, trim your hair, get a part time job.Get those braces, clean and bleach those teeth. Practice good hygine. When someone come over to pick on you, jump in and laugh and pick on yourself. It will take the fun out of it for them and you will seem like a good sport. Try smiling instead of trying to hide from everyone.
You may be Unattractive all your life, but anger and bitterness and self pity will not make you friends where how you act will.
And when you are older and working, live cheap and go to the plastic surgeon and have him fix what you think makes you ugly.
Have the dentist fix your ugly teeth.
A saying about having self-esteem is something I think you should hear.
Remember not everyone is going to like you. You may be an orange and everyone seems to like apples. but there are people out there who LOVE oranges. So start working on your personality, working on the rest of yourself to and treat people as if you expect them to like you. You would be surprised how many will. and you will meet people who like oranges.
Good luck to you and stop being a victim. Instead be a survivor.
- ?Lv 71 decade ago
Beauty comes from within, you clearly see imperfections in you that you are not willing to change. You dont have to wear your hair in the same style, does your mum still do your hair for you ? No, then change it yourself, wear more makeup if you feel more confident in it but dont look like a tart, go the dentist for a chat, at least if you know you have a gag reflex you can talk to him about it and also ask about teeth whitener.
You moan a lot yet dont do anything to change it, not many girls like the way they look so they do something about it, God gave you what you have and its up to you to do the best with it.
You sound desperate so get moving and do something positive, remember the story of the Ugly Duckling ? That could be you.
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- RMLv 41 decade ago
Nobody on this earth is perfect my dear. Its just a perception of people who makes other people perfect. Though I always speak that inner beauty is what matters but sometimes outer beauty also matters. Whatever you think that you have flaws in yourself, tackle them one by one. Start saving some money so that you can go to hair stylist and to a beauty parlor. About your teeth, there has to be some way out and you have to pressurize the dentist to give you the way. Eat healthy foods and exercise regularly. In just 2-3 months you will look and feel better. Always remember the real winner is that who never quit. So dont quit, be a fighter and I am sure you will get someone who will love you forever. All the best.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You should gain your confidence. You can only change how you look if you really wanted to and to do that, you would have to gain your confidence first.
Personally, I prefer not to wear makeup and keep my hair natural because some of the girls at my school look like circus freaks with all the makeup on. It's funny because I'm in circus. lol.
You could whiten your teeth if you want. Make up your own hair styles or youtube, google them.
I really bet that your pretty btw. People can have a crush on you without you noticing it. Trust me.
I hope this helped you a bit.
You can e-mail me if you want some more advice.
u.s_polo_assn@yahoo.com
~U.S POLO ASSN.
Source(s): Only belive in youself. Dance like no ones there. Live life to the fullest and let no one bring you down or you would just have to accept and belive what others tell you just so they have pleasure and make you feel like a cretin. You may win one battle but il win the ********* war! - CandyToyLv 41 decade ago
Beauties only skin deep. I’m not that pretty, but it really dose not bother me that much. If it did I would save my money and get a professional make over. Pay a fortune on makeup, hair prep, cloths. Diet and exercise. If you want it bad enough, you can make yourself look better. You, probably, won’t become a movie star, but people may stop making fun of you.
By the way, when people make fun of me, i often ask them why would you want to do this? Do you think people wont notice your faults, if you keep them focused on me? But I would say what there fault is. I try to stand up for myself, because nobody is Perfect.
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- 1 decade ago
dont listen to your parents. they always say you look good no matter what. but if you dont like the way you look, you should try to change it. if you dont like your body, consider a diet, or if you want a bigger butt or boobs, consider a transplant. for your teeth, consider a whitener. if you want to be more attractive, wear makeup, wear sexy clothes like tight short jeans or tight pants, and like wear shirts that expose your boobs a little bit more. but you also have to try to be social, and that way you will find a guy that will like you for who you are no matter how you look. havn't you ever heard the song by Bruno Mars "Just the Way You Are" ? if not then listen to it. but you will find a guy you like IF you become more social. that is the key... also go to the prom with your friends, and follow my tips, you might meet somebody, ;) and also if this doesnt work then maybe you are talkin to the wrong guys.
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