dating questions about my gf?

Despite the fact I find it disgusting that you think it is in any way normal for a 13 year old to have a child...I dont think that is going to get threw to you. So think about this. You are 3 years older then her? You are 16!!! Why, in gods name, would you want to have a child before you're even old enough to buy alcohol? I'm just trying to put this in perspective for you. The government thinks you are too young to make choices about drinking before 21. What makes you think you are old enough at 16 to make the the choice to bring a child into this world? What makes you think this 13 year old girl who is "mature" know what it means to have a child? Do you know how expensive that is? That you will care for that child for the rest of your life? At the very least your required to care for that child for 18 years. You will be 34 before your life is your own again. A 13 year old that wants a child, is not mature. Trust me on that one.

UPDATE! - After reading your additinal details I know realize even more how little you understand about this situation. $100 a month right? $100 X 9 month of pregnancy = $900. Guess how much the rent costs for 1 month in my 1 bedroom apartment? Just the rent? $735!!! So add in food and other bills, your already out of money before the month is up, and that doesnt include the baby you want. Get some real life perspective before you do anything. This will be the biggest mistake you ever make.

More than whether or not your girlfriend is physically capable of having children at a young age, I think you two need to seriously thing about whether you and your girlfriend are financially stable and emotionally mature enough to raise a child.

Getting pregnant and having a baby is simple enough, raising that child on the other hand is a huge financial, emotional and time consuming responsibility.

On a legal note, the age of consent in Michigan is 16. So if you are over the age of 18 there is very good chance that you can be charged with sexual misconduct - which is a third degree felony if the person is at least 13 years of age and under 16 years of age.

Both you and your girlfriend need to think about what having a child at your ages would mean. Who will be primarily responsible for caring the the child? And remember, it's a 24 hour job. Who will be responsible for paying the bills? Remember, children aren't cheap - diapers, food, clothing, pediatrician visits, rent, transportation are all things to think about.

Spend your youth preparing for your future, you two have the rest of your lives to be adults. Go to college, travel, save some money, spend time with friends, buy a house, get a car, figure out your career. All of these things will become substantially more difficult with a baby. Get settled first and a child will be a joy to have, not a financial burden.

Don't mean to preach, but at 13 your girlfriend is little more than a child herself - no matter how intelligent and mature she might be.

You both are young, these kind of descisions should NOT be made until you both are financially stable and no matter how "mature" you say she is, she isn't. At most her maturity level would be two years older, but it's obvious that isn't the case considering she wants kids. mature 13 year olds understand how life changing having a family would be, and would not want to waste their youth. Plus, you can't be all that mature either if you can't formulate sentences properly, or spell simple words correctly. I don't mean to be a bi*ch, but unless this is a troll post, please reconsider everything you're doing. Don't have a 12 year old girl lose her virgnity and possibly get pregnant at 12, especially to someone who is apparently 16 (you said you guys were about 3 years apart). This isn't the ancient times where these things were politically correct (but still fuc*ed up), we live in a time with a lot of sick minded people being exposed daily and it's definitely not the place of a 12 year old to be considering having children.

Do not consider having kids at all right now, your both really young, especially her. She shouldn't even be worried about having kids. No offense but shes probably just horny. Which means don't have sex with her. Your relationship is already a bit effy, Im sure you know. But seriously don't go through with it. Having a kid at this age would be the worst thing you could do. It could strain your relationship and you will struggle for the rest of your life. Dealing with school, a child, and working... To much for you right now. Wait until you guys are ready say, moved out, steady jobs, and car. Then have children.

Um, HELL YEA YOU BOTH ARE WAYYYY TOO YOUNG!! what are you thinking?! Why are you trying to grow up so fast?! Your life hasn't even begun! You have experienced near to nothing! I am 16 and never plan on having kids. Does she know how much pain she will go through? Has she not seen 16 and Pregnant? It isn't just a reality show. It should teach you a lesson. Babies and marriage is a lot of work...especially for someone who can't even drive, vote, or drink. What in the hell are you thinking. Why are you trying to throw away your life? Hunny, live your short life to the fullest....and if you have a baby, then your life will change and you WILL REGRET IT! You are going to realize soon enough that you may not even want to be with this girl. She is just a stepping stone to realizing and figuring out who you are! You aren't even in high school i suspect. Don't throw it away. Life is too precious.

Now this is not my normally cynical self answering here so this is what I think. #1 I wish I could have had sex that early. #2 I wish I could have had sex now. #3 and most important. I think you guys should wait. If you truly love each other the love will not die as you get older and you wont have to worry about legality - which I am not sure how it fits into two minors. Now I return to the land of the cynical virgins.

ok one thing u shuld consider is that at that age yes the kids would be normal but she could de giving birth because shes that young. And no as long as your not 18 or older and as long as when she has the kids, she doesnt say that u didn rape her, no u shuldnt go to jail.

Dude...WTF!!!!! Your basically considered a sex predator and you probably just f**ked yourself posting this s**t on the Internet! Your 16 which is age of consent in a lot of states and if you have sex with her (which you probably have cause your a dumba**) your going to jail for statutory rape. Lol good luck!! Plus you'll be be considered a sex predator for the rest of your life which probably will leave you with no job and not much of a future. Good luck again you'll need it.

so you are 15 and she is 12?

cant you tell how many things are wrong with this? You guys are still kids and your thinking of having a kid?

1. How would you support that child?

2. How could you finish your education with that child?

3. Where would you live?

You guys are moving absurdly fast. Please dont have a baby! think of your future!