I found out my husband (separate for 10 years) has gotten remarried without a divorce? What do I do?

MAY have remarried is not HAS remarried, so I'd go easy. If you discover that indeed he has, in the U.S. that's a criminal offense, and you've got him over a barrel - not only him but his current wife. You may not be in favor of divorce, but if I was in your place and learned he has remarried I'd inform him he could either pay for a divorce from me, or I was going to notify the authorities.

You haven't said whether you are interested in getting married again or not, but even if it's "not" you don't know what is going to happen tomorrow.

BTW if he comes up with some lame story about having divorced you - that somehow you must not have received notice, when I'm sure he'll be glad to simply make a copy of the decree and send you a copy.

Good luck.

Let me see now..

- You have been separated for 10 years.

- You "found" your husband, YOU went looking for him.

- You say that HE wanted to get back together.

- You say he may have remarried without a divorce (Which is illegal).

What do you do? Go to a doctor & have yourself evaluated for Borderline Psychotic Personality Disorder. If you have not moved on in a decade, there is something very wrong with you.

Grant the man a divorce immediately. Wish him well if he has found someone who is not as disturbed as yourself. If he want's to get back into your pants & you let him.. Well I already indicated you should see a therapist.

It's Christianity, as a whole. Although, some denominations are more lax on the rules than others. The only Biblical reason for divorce & remarriage is adultry, and even then, it's better to try to forgive and continue to grow the marriage. God doesn't like separation - it grieves Him. However, if a Christian is married to a non-believer, the non-believer is not so bound by God's rules. If that spouse chooses to leave the marriage, the Christian spouse is not required to stay. But, neither are they supposed to get married again. God will forgive though. Divorce is not blasphemy.

I don't know the rules where you are but I can tell you that my ex is now my ex and he is unaware of that as his whereabouts are unknown other than the fact that he lives in another country now and as such I've been able to divorce him (only after 5 years though) without his consent or knowledge. It may be worth speaking to an attorney first to see if they can find anything out before you report him for bigamy and really you do need to as his marriage is actually invalid if he hasn't obtained a divorce.

did he say that he may have gotten remarried but wasn't sure? well it sounds like you went to alot of trouble to find him and may have even been spying on him but just because you saw him with another person doesnt mean anything he might have filed for divorce and the court might not have been able to find you they will grant a divorce if someone cant be located after a period of time so just because you were married the last time you saw him doesnt mean you are still married now you know the guy if you seperated before because you didnt get along and you think he's married and wanting to get back with you and lying about it I dont know why you need to ask what to do i think it's ok to let this one get away you might find it irresistable to be in love with a guy you havent seen in 10 years who is married to another woman and is lying about wanting to get back together with you but me I'd have to let this gem go

If he did get remarried without a divorce then its bigamy. You mean you found him. did he want to be found/ Find out the whole story of the past 10 years

like i always say,,divorce or work it out,.

separation just puts off the end result.whether it is 6 months or 20 years. cut the legal ties and get a divorce.

He can not LEGALLY get married if he is not yet divorced from you.

There would be records available if he already has gotten a divorce.

You will have to do some research or hire someone to do that for you.

Grant him a divorce and move on.

Separated for 10 years and you think he wants you?

Seriously...?

I told my wife, as far as I am concerned, there is NO such thing as a "trial" separation. To me a "trial separation" is a "practice for divorce".