oh no. ruined my man's marriage proposal. any thoughts?

Wow. Of course you didn't see what was coming...eeeggggaaadds girl. I think you need to go to him and say, "you know honey, I am looking back and realizing I sabotaged your plans for a trip I didn't want to go on...I should have compromised more and I did not and I apologize for that...".

I think that is about all you can say without blowing what someone told you that you now know...

I hope you do this dear, and not just because of what was intended, as much as you need to learn to compromise and meet him halfway on issues...Traveling is wonderful for so many reasons...opens up your world to new places, new sights and new people and new experiences overall...I would hope you ease up on this matter in your life, for you will indeed, miss some of the BEST part of life if you don't...

Grace <a travel queen always on the go!>

19 years ago on the day we met Darrell asked me to marry him. I told him to go home and think about it. Fast forward to 2008, my sister was going through a divorce. I thought about the what the sh**heel did to her. A few days later I said to Darrell 'Let's get married.' We got married on what would have been my parents 60th Anniversary. We went in to tell my dad, who said' it's about time'. The next week I went to see him and asked if he figured out what the day was we got married. 'No' October 18th. " That was our anniversary." That's why I picked it.

Why don't you plan a small trip since you don't really like to travel, a bed and breakfast or something nice like that near-by where you live. See if you can't get one of his friends to suggest to him to bring the ring along, that maybe he should try it again, after you tell him you'd like to get away for a day or so. Nice romantic dinner, all you need to do is explain how you've thought about not being with him and that you would much rather be with him and 'Would you marry me?'. Maybe he'll realize you've thought about how you acted and want to be with him more than you want to be apart.

I wish you luck. ;O)

Mary

And, so you should. What's the big deal going to 'his' city anyway? Did you have a bad experience there or did you just have a need to be the one to pick where to go?

Sadly, I don't see him thinking about asking you for a long, long time now...if ever.

I had a friend that screwed up a proposal on her man, said no the second time, asked him the third time. Guess what, they are divorced now.

Trust is the cornerstone to a relationship- he knows you don't have that for him now.

Keep communicating your honest emotions and encourage him to do the same. Keep being real about your learnings from this. What doesn't kill you can make you stronger. Also give it some time to reflect on and be patient with yourself and with him as you figure this out.

He was in the wrong, not you. He was thinking of how HE could make it romantic instead of thinking about what YOU wanted. I would feel bad if I were you too, but really, he should know you well enough to come up with a plan that you would like.