How do I leave my husband?

Have you looked into marriage / family counseling?.. Nothing you said seemed to indicate that he is a bad father to the kids, so this doesn't seem to be a case of outright abuse-- counseling and understanding can take things a long way.. You might find out ways that you can be more loving to him so he can be more loving to you, etc etc..

DO NOT Listen to the comment Gary wrote and stay with your husband for the good of your children if you are NOT happy yourself...that will only make things worse.

I have a 2 year old son and have been in an emotionally abusive relationship with his father for 4 years. I just recently broke free of the routine: argue, cry and feel helpless, make him leave, forgive him, take him back, repeat...your situation may not be the same but you get the idea.

If you stay in a relationship you are not happy with you will not be giving your children 100% of the amazing mother they deserve or that you really are. Your mind is consumed with the fact that you are giving 100% to your husband and don't feel like he is doing so himself.

Even if he tells you he will change, he won't. It takes years for a person to change - and they can only do so if they truly want to change (counselling, etc).

Separation/Divorce is a very hard thing to follow through with and I am just giving advise based on my past relationship. Being a single mom is hard and some things are easier with two parents in the home. The one thing you have to ask yourself is "Am I happy in this relationship and would I be a better mother and role model for my children if I left my husband?" It might sound selfish to ask if YOU are happy, but my counselor and mom both said the same thing to me "if you are not truly happy with your life and the way you are being treated in your marriage, how do you expect to give your kids the best quality of motherhood?"

Also, you don't want your kids growing up in a home where they are watching how the father treats the mother...they will grow up thinking that is how marriage is supposed to be.

Be strong, turn to family and friends for support, don't give in and fall for his plea of forgiveness, and do what truly feels right in your heart.

All the best! xo

So you want to leave hubby and leave your kids fatherless because the romance has gone out of your marriage yes?

It's a little drastic don't you think, counselling would be a better first step, far less final as well.

Try your best to stay with him. Not for you, not for your husband, but for your kids. My parents were on the brink of divorce many times, but I know they stayed together for me and my siblings. Be strong.

Marriage counseling might help.