Asking for Money as Wedding gift. Etiquette please?

In this case, who cares about etiquette? Not everybody wants, needs or cares about material goods; in fact, a lot of people specifically dislike them, and would prefer more meaningful or practical things like memories together or the ability to take a honeymoon when one might otherwise be unattainable.

I can't believe the other posters here would really grudge people that just because of some stupid, arbitrary rules on what should constitute good taste! Seriously, is giving them a lame toaster so important? You people really want to force a couple to accept things they do not want just so you feel like everything is polite? It's not your damn marriage and who cares what you think!

I know you have got to be more sensible than these other people are, Gil! ;)

The book of Etiquette would say it is in bad taste.

For me personally, I don't know. Registries are starting to become the norm (as long as it is within the budget of the guests). Wedding gifts are supposed to help the new couple supply their new home with appliances, furniture, etc. I don't think I'd be happy knowing I'm donating to someone's honeymoon or helping them with a downpayment for a house.

One way a guest could deal with this awkward situation would be to select a gift from a store that readily accepts returns, no questions asked. You could even ask for a "gift receipt" to include with the item (it does not show the price paid, only the store name and a brief description of the item). Then the couple goes to that store, turns in the gift, and receives some money.

Or they might actually like your gift and keep it!

I think it's rude. How much money are they expecting to gain from people!? It's not up to wedding guests to pay for The honeymoon/house deposit! As for gift registry, I think it Is so presumptuous that people should go and spend X amount of dollars on things they've picked out for themselves!

ANY mention of gifts by a bridal couple is rude, rude, rude. If I were you, I would snail mail them an "envelope" full of Monopoly money.

I would preffer it, easy wedding gift.k

That is very bad etiquette and tacky.I would not think of it.