How can i get out of my head and into the moment?

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He's 19, he had one girlfriend before me, they were together for a year and a bit and they lost their V to eachother

I'm 18, i've had quite a few boyfriends lasting between 6months and 10months and one serious boyfriend that lasted 2 years and a bit. but the furthest i've ever gone with a guy is kissed. Never done anything else, never even felt under a guys shirt :/

... well i've been with him for a long time now (good few months) and we've been getting closer and closer emotionally and more passionate when we kiss, but whenever things start to get heated - like they might actually be leading somewhere i get soo incredibly nervous and kind of freeze up - i start worrying whether i'm doing things right, and what should i say, am i kissing him okay, blah blah, blah - my head gets so clogged up :(

... we've talked about it and he's been really understanding and says there's no way he wants to pressure me into anything etc. but idk, i really really like this guy and i know we can last, i don't want to screw things up because i can't move forwards, is there something wrong with me for being like this?

- -Ladii TK- - · Accepted Answer

This is normal. Who doesn't get nervous??? I mean you can't help that. But my only suggestion to you is to just let it happen. Your mind might say no a couple of times, but just let your body keep saying yes. Relax. Close your eyes and open them when you think you're ready to see everything. Just let him do what he have to do to make you comfortable. If you're not ready, then don't do anything because you might regret it later if you jump into it without being mentally and emotionally ready for that. Good luck!

Hannah J. · Answer

There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with you, the farthest I have ever gone with a guy was a hug and a kiss ( A peck on the lips ) I wouldn't even think of going any farther. I am almost positive that You and I aren't the only people like this, worried we're doing things right. If you're not ready you're not ready. Nothing wrong with that.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope its normal you dont want to go ahead and thats fine. If your boyfriend is happy and understandinng with you about it then thats great. I understand you really like this guy and you want to take things further butt if your not ready then just wait. I mean if all you want to do is kiss him then thats all you want to do not a big deal! Butt if you really, really just want to take it forword with this guy and take it to the next level then go ahead do it just do it over come your worry's or like I said early'er just wait either way you still gotta boy friend!

nicolatwinkle · Answer

it seems to me that you are not really ready to take things that one step further.  slow down and don't panic.  he seems a good guy that he is not pressuring you to go further.  have another chat let HIM really now how you feel.  good luck and remember never do anything you don't want to.

keehne · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

you cant, simply because this moment is not your moment. accept it.

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