Is there something wrong with me?

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Im not good at expressing my thoughts and feelings, but here it goes. At least a few times a week I have these little bouts of feeling super down on myself, It usually lasts anywhere from a few hours to a couple of days, and it's usually triggered by either something I did, or something someone's said to me. I get really irritable and have all these self degrading thoughts in my head about how stupid or inferior I am, and once the feeling starts, I usually have a hard time snapping out of it.

    I also have a hard time being myself around people, Im always usually the quiet boring one with not much to say, and it definitely bugs me. I always censor myself and think before I speak, but doing so makes me very bland and uninteresting, therefore I find it very difficult to make friends or bond with people in general.
 
    I don't know if there's something wrong with me or what, but it's been going on for a long time. And idk if it's depression because the feelings are not consistent, I rarely feel overly happy, but the feelings do ease up when I distract myself and I can feel relatively normal, but just overall I have really low self esteem and don't really feel comfortable expressing myself to people.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Zorn ... very well written ! It doesn't seem like there is anything wrong with you neurochemistry-wise. As you say, your down periods are due to self-image management. What you need to shore up in yourself are your basis of self-esteem, and your methods of personal growth.

Your self-esteem should be based on your beliefs on who you are, and what you wish to stand for in life. Make a list of those things and remind yourself as often as you need to. For instance, say you are overweight in your mind. It is more brain healthy to have a program to improve your weight with nutritious diet and cardio exercise with concrete realistic achievements goals. Your thinking should not be focused on you being overweight and belittling yourself, but on the improvement program that you are committed to in order to have a healthy body weight. Have small personal rewards on achieving milestones you have set for this program. As far as your mind is concerned, you believe and are committed to achieving and maintaining a healthy weight in life. This is a totally healthy approach to this issue.

Presently you have tied your self-esteem to what you hear others say about your performance, and to what you think others think about you. Everyone needs to improve various aspects of their lives, but it should be a positive process, not a negative one. In short, input from others is good, but it is up to us to filter that input into what is constructive, and what is not. Constructive input that we believe has merit is put on our goals program where to improve we develop a personal program for improvement based on google research of what methods have worked for others, and what meets our core beliefs on who we are. Input that we deem as not constructive is either discarded all together, or is considered for beneficial relationship improvement.

One of the programs you need to develop is how you make friends and communicate in a natural enjoyable way. You do that by googling these very concerns and see how others make friends, make enjoyable conversation, etc. With each program you develop specific written goals and experiments to improve. "Practice makes perfect !" If you'd like to discuss this further, just e-mail me at hol.istic@yahoo.com. Take care ! Chip

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Is there something wrong with me?

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