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? asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Am I wrong for feeling like he shouldn't complain?

My husband has been laid off for like a month now and will start his new job within a week. I work 2 part-time jobs and go to school and we have a 18 month old daughter. When he works I clean up, wash the clothes, and tend to our daughter, but now that he's been laid off I feel like it's my turn to not do as much so I have stopped cleaning as much and let him take care of our daughter when it comes to diaper changing. I seldomly help him clean but when he had a job he never helped me clean but now that he has to do what I do he feels the need to complain but when I was working going to school I cleaned and tended to our daughter WITH NO COMPLAINTS. Am I wrong for being mad at him for complaining about something that I never complain about?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You're not necessarily wrong, it's natural to feel the way you do. It's okay to be annoyed with him for complaining, but at the same time, you two probably just handle the situation diferently. As long as he is doing what needs to be done, cleaning, and taking care of your daughter, his complaining is relatively harmless, other then being annoying to you. If he isn't doing what he needs to, and is complaining, thats when you can get angry with him. He's probably having trouble adjusting to the new way of living, and most men like to bring in money to contribute to the household, so he could be feeling a bit down in general, which is leading to further complaining. I'd either brush it off and let him complain, or have a calm talk with him and make sure he is doing okay with all these changes.

  • 1 decade ago

    Nope, you're right for being mad. You work two jobs, go to school, take care of you're almost two year old daughter, and clean the house. And... all he does is work one job? When he wasn't doing anything because he got laid off, he complained about doing house work?

    You have every right to be pissed, tbh.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Its true he's not used to cleaning but i can see where you're coming from it can get frustrating! My hubby hurt himself on the job one time and was home for a couple months drove me bonkers when he wouldn't clean! Us women do so much sometimes they don't understand! What you need to do is just have a talk with him. Let him know your feeling frustrated not mad! Its not wrong of you to ask for help!...

  • 1 decade ago

    Talk it out and don't make it seem like you are "complaining." Instead when ever he does something around the house make sure you appreciate the help and don't just ignore it because you think he "should" do it. It is hard to change old habits, so you have to understand.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I find it hard to believe you cleaned without *any* complaints. If you did, you're a saint.

    Give him a little leeway here. He's probably not used to what he's doing, but it's good that he's doing it and you should be grateful for him... just as he should've been grateful for you when you were doing the chores.

  • 1 decade ago

    you have to realise, most men can usually only do one thing (we can't multitask very well!) like bring home the money, so a sudden change of pace is going to take a little getting used to, especially taking care of a home! but it'd be best if you tried to split the work evenly so he doesn't feel like you're taking advantage of his lack of a job. this is just my opinion though, so take it with a grain of salt.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yeah, he's in the wrong.

  • 1 decade ago

    No your not !!!!!!!!!!!!

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