If a woman's going to wedding shower & wedding, is it appropriate to bring main--and only--gift to the shower?

In today's bad economy, I have seen more people do that very thing. People can hardly afford to buy one present, much less two.....yet hesitate to decline to participate in what are actually meant to be festive occasions for friends...and never were intended to the invitations being conditional upon bringing gifts.

So...I think it is totally OK to go to the shower....and take the wedding gift. There is NO need to blather on that you intend it to be both the shower and the wedding gift.....just take the gift.....give it....and then don't send a wedding gift if you only intend to give one gift.

It is very bad manners to take gifts to a wedding with you......wedding gifts are sent to the home prior to the day of the wedding. So, it is less likely to be noticed by others that you didn't give a wedding gift....than it is to be noticed if you don't take a gift to a shower where it IS traditional to open the gifts in the presence of the other guests.

Face the fact that a gift taken to a wedding shower actually IS a wedding gift. Most showers do, though , have some sort of theme....kitchen shower, etc.. so I would consider if the shower is supposed to be for kitchen items, etc....and make your gift something that fits that category if there is one.

Basically I agree with what Ms. Minerva says. Personally, I'd probably split my wedding gift fund 75/25, with the larger portion going toward the main wedding gift and the smaller one going toward the shower gift. I think people understand these problems. The idea of one substantial gift brought to the shower, and based on the shower theme, is acceptable, although it might make the other guests' more modest shower gifts look somewhat inferior.

However, when she says, "It is very bad manners to take gifts to a wedding with you......wedding gifts are sent to the home prior to the day of the wedding," I have to point out that some brides no longer live at home – they have their own place, share an apartment with girl friends, or are even already living with their fiancé. Often there would be no one there to receive a delivery from a store, or through the mail or UPS. Unless the givers can arrange to bring their gifts to the bride when she's at home, or to her parents' home if they live in the same town, they may have no other choice but to bring them to the wedding reception.

This situation has become so common, that most wedding receptions have a table (not too near the door) where these gifts are gathered together. Often there's a friend of the bride stationed there to write down the names of the donors, and make sure that the cards or tags are firmly attached to the packages. Also, someone is generally delegated to make sure they're all packed up and transported to a safe place until the couple returns from their wedding trip.

No, Thee are two different events. How could you combine the two gifts anyway? The shower gift is something for the baby and the wedding gift something for the couple. Had you planned just on getting everyone diapers?

Two events two gifts wedding is money the gift should be about the price of the meal such as 70.00 per plate then your talking at least $100.As for the shower pick something from the regestry if its something expensive then you can have someone chip in with you.

Wait a minute! the different solutions were from brides who more often than not "anticipated" 2 separate presents. even as the bridal marketplace has led brides to believe 2 presents are ideal, per chance travelers prefer to quit and re-analyze that idea. particular that is awesome if someone has a huge budget to get the couple 2 presents. yet what about acquaintances whose budgets are restricted? Does this disqualify them from attending both the bathe or the marriage because they could't take care of two separate presents? we prefer to be real looking right here. The bathe is to help the bride & groom set up their homestead. And if a targeted visitor needs to provide a important and in basic terms present on the bathe somewhat of bringing it to the marriage, which could prefer to be completely superb including her acquaintances, the bride and groom. If that is not, then per chance the targeted visitor needs to stumble on a better classification of acquaintances. ;-)

If you're going to both events, you have to get a gift for both events. The shower gift doesn't have to cost much. (For that matter, neither does the wedding gift.)