I am cheating on my wife and husband?

Selfishness. Most people don't understand the meaning of love. They think that they can have whatever they want instead of sacrificing for one person that means the world to them. They don't appreciate what they have and feel that they need more. One person can only provide so much interest, stimulation, attention, and attraction...there are so many people out there with different things to offer. But I believe if you love someone, you choose to focus your interest on that person and find things to appreciate about them every day. You help them become to best person they can be, not foreget about them and go find a quick fix.

There are as many reasons as there are people. Some may be similar, but at some level they're all different. For example, I know a couple. She's beautiful, smart and amazing. She would do anything for him so it isn't like he's wanting for anything. But he cheated on her. Personally, I think it was because he had a bit of an inferiority complex...I never did see what she saw in him, but...and this was a way to 'prove to himself' that he was worth having. She found out and, behind his back, had an affair of her own. At first, it was pay back, althrough he never knew, but then it was like a drug. The passion, the excitement and being so desired was like a stimulant. Others? They're lonely and seeking someone to take away that loneliness. They don't want to leave their partner, but they don't want to be lonely either. Others, it's the excitement of the chase and the conquest. Other's it's the tease that gets out of hand, they get pulled into the passion of the tease and themselves get caught up. And, for others, there is a genuine love for another person. Love is infinite. A person can love their husband or wife and still love another person just as much. They don't look for it or plan it that way, love just happens. They can try to control it or avoid it, but sometimes that effort only intensifies the love. And this love is just as real, just as lasting as that that they feel for their husband or wife. And it doesn't diminish the other in any way. (Does loving your mother diminish your love for your father?)

So there are many reasons. And it can be a mess.

I don't condone it either but often it's simply because when you're married or even in a relationship you feel constrained. People think they're still in love with the person they're hurting and they justify it to themselves. Sometimes you get the oppurtunity to sleep with someone you're attracted to. Sometimes its a mid life crisis or some kind of disillusionment you have with your life. There are a lot of reasons; these are just some of them.

As for my I admit it I cheated on my husband after being together for 11 years

But.......I stayed because of my kids which was wrong because I was always depressed and my kids would have to see this. I lost love for him he was controlling, physically and mentally abusive, couldn't support us financially always gave excuses to not get a better job or go to school for a trade. Sexually that was lost after the second year into our marraige.

Am I wrong for cheating on someone who abused me I was even put into the hospital yes u might say I'm dumb but it's hard to leave an abusive relationship believe me!! Cheating on my husband with mynew friend made things do much easier to leave the relationship

I feel blessed everyday for my friend that is here in my life!! Without him who know where I'll be!!

I love u poohbear!!!

there are various motives, however the in particular fall into: a million) Their emotional needs are no longer being met interior the marriage 2) Their sexual needs are no longer being met interior the marriage 3) the two their emotional and sexual needs are no longer being met interior the marriage 4) even regardless of the shown fact that their emotional and sexual needs are being met interior the marriage, they simply like the exhilaration of cheating and getting away with something. that's especially much like their announcement of independence from the marriage the place they "strengthen into one". that's a taking returned of a factor of themselves. The exciting element is that for the duration of numerous surveys i've got examine on cheating that approximately 80% of the two men and ladies say they love their companion and have no purpose of leaving them for his or her lover and that for the duration of maximum circumstances additionally they say that intercourse with their companion is greater gratifying than intercourse with their lover. So the cheating isn't "substitute intercourse" according to se, that's greater of one greater intercourse element.

Some people cheat because they think that their partner is always going to be around, no matter what. They think they can get away with anything.

well, women cheat because they feel "entitled" to the great feeling they get from the extra attention they get from another man with out any guilt because even if they get caught they still win alimony, child custody plus the sympathy factor with every one. she convinces everyone it's his fault because "he didn't pay her enough attention to her". a man cheats usually because he is tired of getting a new excuse every night why his wife won't give him sex. they say men are like dogs and in one way they are right, we are the most loyal creatures as long as you feed us (sex). if you don't we will eventually leave the porch and become a stray and find some one who will feed us.

They don't think about any of that.

People cheat for one simple reason: because they want to.

The ones that have a partner that will stick w/ them no matter what will do it over and over again since they suffer no consequences.

i think women do it for intimacy and attention; men do it for sexual gratificication - if only they could get together!

Generally, people cheat because they don't feel appreciated or feel like something is missing in their relationship.