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Could someone help me with this?

I was dating a girl until very recently who lived in Dallas (I live in Charlotte.) I broke up with her around three weeks ago (after a two month relationship) because we had nothing in common, and this other girl who I have had a crush on for three years AND who lives 50 miles away had insinuated that she liked me. After I broke up with the first girl, I hit on the second girl for some time, and last night I asked her out. She rejected me, not because she didn't like me and want to be with me, but because I live 50 miles away and am going to France next semester. (She graduated from university last month, I will be once I return from France, essentially.) I asked her why we couldn't make it work, and she replied with a moral quandary that she has been having for some time. (I have fairly compromising morals in a relationship for both myself and the other party involved, but these were a little out of my range.) But she still seems to like me and want to be with me. Add in that I have no self-confidence at all, and no way to get around (no money and no car), and no friends.

What should I do? Should I move to where she is, despite not having any money? Should I abandon my plans to go to France and graduate? Should I assume I am not meant to be happy? (I will NOT let her go, she is too dear to me for that.) Please help me if you can.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I, personally, think that you should continue with your plans and go to France. If you don't go, there is a very good chance that you will blame her, especially if you end up not working out. Go to France. Study. Call her once a week. Email and Facebook and Tweet and whatever other things the internet has. Stay in touch with her.

    I think you should watch the video in my source box. I know, I know, the guy's hair is a little weird and he talks to a puppy, but he's really intelligent and his advice is well thought out and comes from a person who has loved and lost many a time.

    It is important that you understand, however, that the ultimate decision will be yours and yours alone.

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