Would it be best to leave him?

this is a very difficult situation because the fact is it is a lose, lose situation being that if you leave the kids, him and even you will suffer for you love him very much and then if you stay the situation may get worse. Your happiness is important but the well being of the kids is just as critical. My advise is that you first talk to him let him know how you feel, if you two cant work things out by talking, consulting a therapist will be the next best thing. This is a highly sensitive issue and professional help may be a necessity.

you seem to have everything except the snuggling etc. it is a simple matter that you have grown apart and if you go with some else there will be a time when you will grow apart there to. Why not make a concerted effort to try and grow merging together. of course it takes work but you will be better for it and your love will be stronger and the innocent children do not have to go through the stress of a divorce. Try neighborhood walks holding hands, turn on the feminine charm, go for dinner once in a while and tell him how much you do love him and how much you appreciate him being a good father even if the relationship is a little rocky.

You are living the life of a sham of a marriage. You are NOT by any means living a "normal" loving married life whatsoever. You're sleeping alone, have for over 5 yrs., obviously he can't even take care of himself! What kind of a role model is he setting for his children. It sure cannot be a home filled with love! They no doubt would be far better off without him even in their lives! Is this in all honesty setting a good example of what a marriage should be like?! Not in my way of thinking! I don't know how you could even love someone who shows you NO love, devotion, no intimacy. He then would have to "learn" how to take care of himself instead of depending on you doing it ALL!!! I would truly say your reasons have NO value to you or your family as a family based on love & togetherness. I would have "walked away" yrs. ago rather than live the life you've been living with him & not even given a glance back. You deserve SO MUCH better than what you now have. You deserve a happy loving life which I'm SURE you're not getting. Aren't you worth more? Don't you deserve more? Get OUT & get it, freedom IS waiting for you if you'll just allow yourself to take it...the very best to you...:)

Maybe it's the way you are trying to talk to him .Try approaching him from the side and in a compassionate tone in your voice as to not put him on the defensive.Tlk to him without laying blame which is hard to do even if the conversation starts to go in that direction devert the conversation back to the good times that you two shared and how you long to have that back again and that if you two work together that you two will be able to get back to that way that you two were.The two of you just have to try.Ya it may take both of you admitting your wrongs and swallowing your pride and putting each other first again.

You don't give very good reasons for staying together, but you might want to think if there is a way to work out the problems before you split up. Give him one chance to get into counseling, and see if that helps with the anger issues (and the stress). In these hard economic times, it would be cruel to just dump him.

If he refuses counseling, or if that doesn't work, move on.

Yes, yes, yes. You deserve to have someone who wants and is capable of being with you. Physical touch and intimacy are very important if they are something you want and need in a marriage and something you should have. The kids will still have a Dad, although his day to day involvement will most likely be less. Kids are very understanding and adaptable.

five years is a long time. i am sorry but no man goes that long without sex i don't care what people say you deserve to be loved and if he is not going to do it for you then leave because he had five years to fix his problem i would leave him. for all you know he could be with someone else and have something i went through the same crap with my boyfriend we were together a long time about to get married right when he stopped touching me i didn't think anything of it until it got to the point he never touched me. i found out he was cheating i left him it hurt we share custody of our daughter but i couldn't be with someone who never touched me or anything its like living with a friend so i would leave him

Before you throw in the towel on your relationship and break your wedding vows, think about this from his perspective and address his dependency on you. That's the real problem.

I believe that if he were able to provide for his family, he'd feel more confidence and, frankly, like a man. His pride is taking a beating and, naturally, that would affect any man in the bedroom.

my best answer is too not leave him imagine how much trouble its going to cause your 3 wonderful children, not able to see there father. and you need to step your game up do something amazing in bed. sex can release a lot of stress in life. and enjoy life go to the park ,dinner have fun with the kids. summers almost here go six flags or Disney world. i'm hoping for the best :)

There is a time to sit and remember, to give proper respect to what has been. Then there is a time to look forward and celebrate infinite possibilities!