what would you do if someone you had to sit near picks their nose and smells real bad?

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I do some volunteer work proofreading for a charity, i've been doing if for a year off my own back to help out a charity but recently, the past few weeks a lad has started there (he was forced to go as part of a New Deal scheme so he gets his dole/benefit money, his papers were left strewn about in the room one day). Anyway he smells absolutely terrible. I've opened  the windows wide to give him the hint but the smell is still overpowering and it was so bad last week that despite walking home in the fresh air, his stink was all over my cardigan, trousers etc that I had to put them straight in the wash. To top that off he picks his nose for long periods of time, then eats it, then puts his dirty fingers all over the shared computer mouse & keyboard and regularly strokes his greasy long black hair afterwards. The full time employed workers, all ladies, work in a separate spacious room so haven't got to put up with it but I'm now sadly going to have to stop going as his behaviour is so repulsive I can't bear being in the same room as him. Why can't some people bloody wash? It doesn't help that he smokes as well. I think I ought to tell the women there, it's only courtesy, why I won't be going again so at least they know what the problem is. I know the New Deal scheme is 13 weeks long so perhaps they could phone me back when he's gone so I can resume work there, I think he's got about 8 weeks left to go). One of my relatives thinks that maybe he's waiting for someone to complain so he gets transferred and that the other volunteers who go there have either just stopped going or haven't had the guts to say anything). But either way he's absolutely gross. I'm intrigued what would you do if you were in my place?

Uncle Mike · Accepted Answer

Discuss this with a supervisor, some one in charge of the operation and have them relay your concerns to the poorly groomed filthy pig.  He needs to get his act together, he is a health hazard a communicable disease sponing ground a rude dude and his nose picking and consumption of it's contents is unacceptable and either he goes or we go.  Get some support from others who are aware.

nanny ogg · Answer

I would talk to your line manager about these gross habits.  It is up to them to talk to him.  If he does not change and learn how to live in society then your company should ask him to leave.

If this is a deal with the benefits office they need to know that this young man cannot even be bothered to try and fit in.  Why do we as a society put up with idiots like this, I would tell him straight if I was the manager, and I would point out quite clearly that he either bucks up or out he goes.

Good luck, and don't be afraid to stand up for your own rights, which indeed you are entitled to.

Bholanath · Answer

Send him an e-mail asking him to use the nearest public bath. But, of course, you need to buy a pair of surgical gloves beforehand if you have to use the same shared keyboard.  And invest in a can of air freshener. Indeed a worrying and costly affair. I feel deeply sorry for you.

melia · Answer

I went on a hike as quickly as to what became into supposedly a incredible waterfall and river. once I reached that waterfall I in the present day began to gag. The scent became into so terrible (smelled like rotten eggs and ineffective animals). The river became into filthy! i ought to even stand by ability of it for like a million min. I had to start hiking backpedal because of the fact the scent became into so terrible!

mzrach77 · Answer

When you have a moment when the two of you are alone, advise him that personal hygiene is not something that can be ignored. Let him know that his bad habits are offending you and possibly others. It is best to tell him that make a complaint against him. But, if he does not make a change after you say something to him, then file a complaint.

racey-pacey · Answer

Just tap him on the shoulder and ask "Do you want chips with that?" Come oooooon. Get a life. Sit somewhere else or stand. Put a pair of latex gloves on if it bothers you that much!!!!

minuteblue · Answer

I'm not sure what this New Deal thing his, however could your organization not set hygiene standards?

Sarah · Answer

thats gross. when he picks his nose, tell him to stop in a stern voice. as for the smelling thing tell whoever is in charge. they can tell him to wash.

Anonymous · Answer

Move.

what would you do if someone you had to sit near picks their nose and smells real bad?

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