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LGBT: I need advice for college?

Ok let me start off by saying this is NOT an LGBT issue, I'm gay and I use this category a lot and you guys give great advice and I dont know what other category to put this under.

I will be a sophmore in college this fall. Last year I was in a old freshman dorm, small rooms, no A/C community bathrooms. My dad is a professor at this university so I get free tuition but still have to pay room and board. Next year me and my best friend are living in an upperclassmen suite. We both then our own room and the 2 of us will share a bathroom. Its small but private. All of my other friends are living in this dorm as well.

Well a few months ago I applied to be an RA (Resident Advisor) for a dorm and I just got a call today offering me a position at this other dorm. Thsi dorm is on the complete opposite side of campus but as an RA I get my own room and get FREE room and board (yep, my entire college would be free, even though my parents already help pay for room and baord anyway). I dont know how much I will be able to see my friends, not to mention it is another freshman dorm. I'll be giving up a private bathroom because I'll have to do community bathrooms again and there is no A/C and I'll be dealing with freshman and stupid students soooooo a lot of drug and alcohol problems I'll ahve to deal with among my residents. Not to mention my best friend will need to either be paired with a new roomate (complete stranger) or move to a different room, possibly different dorm.

IDK what to do. Here is my pro cons list of taking the position

Pros: Free college (HUGE), private room, I can stay an RA till I graduate, when I'm a junior I can try to transfer to a better upperclassmen dorm.

Cons: I'll be the only one in my group of friends NOT living in the same dorm as them, freshman dorm, possibly bad residents to deal with, no A/C, community bathroom, making my best friend redo room assignments, and a whole lot of extra responsibilities on top of my job and school work.

what would you do?

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  • Josuan
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You clearly don't want the job, since you want to live with your friends and all. However, even though living with your friends is a perk at the moment, you have to realize that college is your decision. You are not in college for your friends, you're in there for yourself. You could benefit from this experience; it would look good on a resume, and you would learn to deal with different situations. You wouldn't have to bother your parents for room and boarding, you could have more money to yourself. When you applied to be an RA, you knew this was a possiblity, and I'm sure you discussed this with your roommate. I'm sure he would understand.

    In the end the decision is yours; choose wisely and based on where you want to be in the long run instead of what's best for now.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Always, always move up and move on when given the chance. Friends, if they're friends, will accommodate. Buy your own A/C.

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