After you put your scrapbook together, how long did it take for a birth mother to choose you?

Hi, We adopted, but not the way you described above, When you adopt through a private agency, the wait can be years. hundreds of couples have the same type of "books", all are waiting to be chosen.

We adopted through the foster care system. Our home study was completed in about three months and our first child was placed almost immediately. We left our preferences open except we preferred "waiting children". Waiting children are those whose parental rights have been terminated /relinquished or are in the process. These children are literally waiting for permanent homes, many are sibling groups.

Please let your mom's friend know about these children. Many people are unaware that there are children available and waiting. Best wishes

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I even have an quite reliable relationship with my adoptive mom. To be truthful, i all started my seek finding for my father. Adoptive fathers in my existence left alot I recommend alot to be wanted. If a parent can love better than one newborn, then a newborn can love better than one parent. Its this way now in step parent relationships. I even have been on that end too. mothers are available in all shapes and varieties. i'm the daughter of two women folk. the two have inspired me. right this is an occasion: when I had my first daughter, a chum got here visiting. someway we've been given on the subject rely of adoption. I informed her that i became into an adoptee. She asked if I had ever searched. I informed her that i % to yet i did no longer have the money to accomplish that. She informed me that she became right into a organic mom. I asked her a similar question. She stated that she felt that she did no longer have the wonderful to seek. For a 2d in time, i became into her newborn and he or she became into my organic mom. I even have had this journey on multiple activities. Its therapeutic for me and my adoptive mom when I run into those circumstances. An adoptive mom ought to no longer have become a mom devoid of yet another mom. Ask an excellent style of the adoptive mothers in this board, they'll trust that fact. in case you like your newborn, you will honor your newborn's mum and dad no rely who they are or how undesirable they are.

Chosen, well that might be one way to look at it---not that I see it that way. We adopted through foster care and she at 5 yrs old had 'blew' all of 13 placements in less than a years time.

I suggest you share the following information with your mom's friend:

It's entirely possible to help someone parent without snatching their child away from them: Each One Help One @ http://www.values.com/your-inspirational-stories/1...

This is how the adoption industry finds out the best ways to convince people to abandon their kids:

The National Council for Adoption: Mothers, Money, Marketing, and Madness

* Part 1 @ http://www.divinecaroline.com/22095/39669-national...

* Part 2 @ http://www.divinecaroline.com/22095/39676-national...

My aparents have had to watch as their kid goes through all of the agony and trauma that comes with being adopted. They have had absolutely no help in dealing with any of this - as all good parents do, they winged it. It's testament to their brilliance that I'm even remotely sane (hush you lot at the back! :p) and a functioning member of society.

Adoption screws kids up. It's not a fact that the adoption mongers like seeing said in public, but it's true. Not every kid, obviously - some on here are happy to've been adopted, but a surprisingly high percentage of us grow up deeply screwed up.

I was abandoned to adoption at seven months old. I honestly and truly wish that I'd been aborted instead of abandoned to adoption, so please be prepared for the fact that any kid you adopt could grow up to be as screwed up as me (I'm almost 40, so legally "grown up" in pretty much everywhere).

I didn't have a bad adoption - my afamily are the best I could ever have chosen... but if I'd been able to choose, and I'd known then what I know now, I'd've chosen to be aborted before birth instead, 'cause at least that way the lifetime of agony I've gone through would've been over in minutes, instead of the decades that I've been suffering for now.

Please bear in mind that the US Passport agency requires that a birth certificate is filed within one year of birth. You may be causing unnecessary headaches for the person, and they may be denied a passport (as many adopted people frequently are!) - the rules differ state to state.

Actually, if you adopt, the kid still won't be your own. You need to be able to deal with the fact that being a parent to an adoptee is NOT the same as being a parent to your own child. It will not elicit the same feelings in you, and your gut reactions will be off because there is no genetic similarity to recognise. Yes, you'll learn it all in time, and if you're a good a'rent, you won't even take out your frustration at not having your own child on the child you adopt instead.

I suggest you read the links and blurb mentioned in the Best Answer (as chosen by voters) @ http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=201... since that answers your question most thoroughly, and then read back through a few months worth of resolved questions in here http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/index?sid=2115500138

Comprehend that lot, and you'll be about ready to adopt. :)