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Am I being played or should I give her time?

So I met this girl on Match.com...yeah, I know...online dating is weird. Moving on...so she showed the initial interest and contacted me first. We talked a little bit through emails back and forth and I arranged the first date. We went out for dinner and talked for about 2 1/2 hours. During the dinner she was constantly playing with her hair, laughed at even my most cheesy jokes, and found a few reasons to touch my arm...all of which I took as a good sign. She even complimented me on how handsome I was. So all good things there. At the end of the date I told her that I definitely wanted to see her again to get to know her better and she agreed saying "I can't wait to see you again" enthusiastically. So the next day she texts me to thank me for a good time, that she couldn't wait to see me again, and thanks for the 2 roses I had brought her (one for her birthday that was the week before and one for the date). Well the weekend rolls around and she works on the weekends. I text her to say hi and see if we were still on and she says she doesn't feel good but we still playfully text back and forth and she says "don't give up on me...i really want to see you" to which I said "it's ok, I'm patient". She replied with "I'm not ;)" Again, to me this is a good thing. Sunday she texts me and says shes feeling like crap and that she scheduled a doctors appointment for Monday. All good as far as I can tell...i tell her i hope she feels better, etc. So Monday, yesterday, I send her a text saying i hope the doctor told her something good and that she is feeling better. No response. And today, nothing from her. I don't want to pressure her or anything like that. I'm just wondering what I should do at this point. I've seen people who meet online just totally ditch on the other person without so much as a word. But from the way things were going, her saying nothing but good things...hell I even playfully gave her an out if she wanted to change her mind and she insisted that she couldn't wait to see me again. I just don't know if I'm getting played or not. I don't have the most dating experience and she really seems like a great woman. I just don't want hold out hope and end up hurting myself over something that isn't there. Opinions??

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And if I should hold out hope, how should I proceed at this point. I don't want to hound her or anything but I do want to know whats up.

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  • 10 years ago
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    Do not rely on technology for her to get the message. Call her and make a date. If she makes an excuse at that time, just say "Give me a call when you are up to going out". Then let the next move be hers. If you do not hear from her then you know she was a phony and not worth your time.

  • 10 years ago

    Hello. (:

    Well, I would give her a couple of days. I know its very tempting to keep texting her until she replies, but that may be annoying or a slight turn off. That's coming from a girl herself. (: I dont think you are being played, she might not be feeling well after all. Just give it a few days and if she doesnt text back just text her a simple quick message such as "I love you" or "I can't wait to see you". See what she says. Best of luck. (:

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