Are you married to a chronic complainer? and how do you stand it?

YES I am too!!! I don't even enjoy driving with him & having to listen about EVERYONE on the road giving him problems! VERY negative person & he also admits it. I am just the extreme opposite. I am a VERY positive person & have an attitude of gratitude looking for the good things in life to be thankful for. For the most part I've learned to just shut him out & try my best not to allow him to get to me. Anyone can complain, but to me that just does nothing but make things worse. Be thankful you're NOT like him as I so WELL know exactly what you're saying...the best to you...:)

My husband is one of those people. He is a construction worker gets paid really well when he works however he only works 4 months out of the year sometimes less. He gets unemployment so I never have to support the family by myself. Here is the thing. He complains about my son. He complains on all he has to do during the day which is hardly nothing. He complains about going to the store and getting a gallon of milk. He complains about traffic of the news or anything he can possibly think of. I on the other hand have a stressful job. I have to go to work stressed and then come home hearing all about how bad my 17 year old is. That stresses me as well. I am tired of hearing him complain and have been thinking for awhile on leaving him. I have tried to talk to him and he will say sorry but then go right back to doing it again. I am tired and life is to short.

Lol...yes I am! Maybe it is in a man's genetics or something. We were all sick with colds last week (him, our two children and myself), and he was the only one curled up in bed thinking he was dying. Even my 1 year old was fine with it.

He definitely complains a lot. A lot. I think I have gotten to a point where I just tune it out.

Actually, I sent him a short video last week about a guy with no arms and legs giving others motivational speechs about loving life. I'm hoping for a while at least the complaining ceases.

Mine too ~ everything that goes wrong with them they complain about ~ how do we control it ~ kick the so and so out ~ I did, he's just back while I have been in hospital looking after the place ~ it's almost as good as a holiday when he's gone ~ this is after nearly 23 years :(

Lady, I am married to a chronic nothing who doesn't understand what I'm going through. To the point I don't even talk to him except about neutral issues such as the car, the weather and other insignificant things.

How do I stand it ? I don't know. I shut my mouth and that's it... Along with a lot of alcohol LOL

No, my companion isn't. I even have cutting-edge in my existence that people who chronically ***** --- purely refuse to take duty for their very own suggestions-set, besides as the rest....they decide to be sufferers, and till they see that they decide for to take that posture, then they'll purely proceed their crying.

i am and i just try to point out the good things that happened.... i ask him about his day (and he can let it all out ) but then it stops there no more complaining . no down talk at dinner or when we are spening time together, and for his aches i offer him pain meds and if he doesnt take them i tell him i cant help him if he wont help himself iand i say then i dont want to hear it . good luck but they never change

You're the one complaining now aren't you? Isn't that a bit hypocritical of you? You have three options, deal with it and stop complaining yourself, talk to him about it in hopes that it gets better or get a divorce.

Complaining about complaining is just a waste. Do something to improve your situation or move on.

You have to love with your whole soul in order to not let it get to you. You must not love him enough if he can't complain to you. Feel sorry for him!

babe come talk to me ill never complain excep unless its about me and you in bed and that never happen because you like sex right