How do I tell my husband I want a divorce, without feeling guilty?

It is time for him to leave.

If he refuses, you and the kids leave.

File for divorce.

Why are you feeling guilty? Guilt implies that you have done something wrong.

HE is in the wrong, not you. Good Luck!

Although I understand your feelings about keeping the family together, I do not believe anything you say to this man will be taken lightly. For your safety, hire a lawyer and make a plan ---in advance. It sounds like he might become violent when his situation is altered to his disadvantage. Also, he obviously uses your good intentions against you and that is why you need to have others present when you ask for a divorce. They can keep you focused and help protect you. If you want to feel less guilty, think about this.....you cannot change a person regardless of how hard you try. They must change on their own. If he is sleeping on the couch, he doesn't want to make it work or something is medically wrong with him. Either way, this is not a marriage. It is a hotel. He is the guest and you pay the bill. I think the reason he gets so angry is he knows deep down that you are right, but he is not moved enough to do anything about it. If anybody should be angry, it is you. Keep telling yourself that and just do it. God does not expect us to live in misery. It is okay to be happy and your kids deserve to have a happy life as well. Good luck and God bless.

In the short run nothing is going to end well. Especially if he is using you like this. My advice is for you to grab a personal friend or family member and tell him how you feel. You can't do this for the rest of your life. Try to have a private talk in a public place(along with your chaperone of course). It doesn't sound like he is mature. You also say that he is not touching you where he needs to? I hope this isn't only a physical problem because if it is he has a lot of explaining to do. I'm a man with 2 kids and has been married for 6 years. I still want to jump in the bed with my wife as often as possible. I said all that to say this. Being physical with the spouse you married is essential for a healthy relationship. You should not feel guilty for none of this. I don't drink beer but he needs to MAN UP! I know it's probably too late now but after you have "the talk" Find someone who is ready to lend an ear and cry on their shoulder. I know it's tough but clearly this guy needs some tough love from a tough woman.

Are you sure that's the step you want to take? Maybe write him a letter, tell him what you want in your marriage and tell him how you've been feeling. I've written and emailed my husband before as he has a terrible temper. This way, I can tell him what's on my mind without a fight and he usually responds in person or via email. Marriage takes a lot of work. He may simply be depressed due to lack of work/self esteem.

Does he take care of the kids when your working?

I still would leave though sense he has anger issues!I would just tell him im done & i want a divorce or not even tell him & pick up your stuff & leave some how so he dont threaten you!

Don't say anything and be miserable...or say something and be set free? I just went through this but we have one baby and another on the way. My happiness was not a good sacrifice for him. Obviously you care about him because you aren't wanting a nasty end, let him know that. I did but he still took it bad...I didn't want to hurt him but I was hurting myself by being miserable in that relationship.

Has he only became like this?

If he has always been like it, why did you marry him?

Did you marry in haste, before either of you got to know each other - & are now both regretting it?

You would both be better off, out of each others sight...........but, as usual, it will be the kids who suffer the most.

This is what you say: "Your a lazy Mutha F****** A******! All you do is sit on your outta work A**, and depend on me! Having our 3 kids plus you is like having a 4th child! You can't even satisfy me ! What straight man in their right mind turns down sex ! We can't be together because you don't do S***! im gonna die from stress ! " Go "I've lost my F****** mind on these men" works eveytime. xD

make him to realize him own mistakes what he did.