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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 10 years ago

Why is my Wife suddenly acting like she hates me? Has lost her sense of humor, always complains 24/7?

For the first 3 years of our marriage, she was awesome. We used to clown around all the time. Actually, it was her sense of humor that really attracted me. She really made me laugh so hard. She was like this even before marriage, we were friends in college for 2 years before we even started dating.. Well, around a year ago. Suddenly she never laughs anymore. Shes extremely serious. When I joke around, she doesn't laugh.. Also, she is complaining 24/7. I don't get whats happened to her, it's like shes a different person. It's not depression.. It's like she hates me. It's only with me. When her friends are around, or her sibblings, she goes back to normal mode. It's so crazy, last month I tried to get her to attend some marriage therapy sessions with me on my dollar, and she refused to go. Whats up with her?? Below I will list some of the things that have changed.. Please comment..

- Never keeps her word anymore, acts like she doesn't care when she doesn't follow threw.

- Never returns my phone calls? Or hardly answers the phone when I call her. Gets hyper defensive when I confront her about not returning my calls.

- Takes everyone else side against me. Literally, in front of me, will defend people she doesn't even know against me.

- Hardly ever wants sex anymore. We used to get it on freak nasty regularly, now it's about once a month, if I'm lucky.

- Has become Condescending to me in front of others.. She never used to do this.

- Complains, complains, complains, about any and everything. Cursed me out for accidently flushing a que-tip down the toilet?

- Very Detacted Emotionally.

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  • 5 years ago

    Likely it's something bothering her that you are doing or have done and she thinks you won't listen or amend the problem. Historically have you guys tended to talk openly about your problems? Take her on a date of her choice and the next day make time to sit down in private and ask her to be open if something is wrong. Speak from your heart and remind her you love her. Then don't get defensive to anything she says.

    Either it's that or she's having an affair or both. If she were it could stem from unfulfilled emotional needs. Don't jump to conclusions.

    Regardless of why she's acting like this, you need God. He wants to help your heart.

    Pray now and turn your life over to Christ. Repent of sin, meaning to be sorry to God for sin is against Him and with Him being good He doesn't deserve for us to sin against Him. Study biblical archaeology. Look up Kent Hovind for creation evidences. There's also something called creation science. The Bible is totally true and you need God.

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    10 years ago

    She does it because you let her. Stand up for yourself and explain to her you don't want to be treated like that anymore. She probably takes all her life stresses out on you, which isn't right. Funny I'm sure my husband feels the same way about me as you do with your wife. I know that I treat my husband bad sometimes, I need to different way of explaining the way I feel. It's easier just to get mad and judgmental. For example, my husband just forgot to turn off the bathroom light. If I as really stressed I would have mentioned that he forgot, but after ready your post I decided to get up and walk over and turn it off and not say a thIng. I guess your wife needs to learn when to pick her battled and not always be dumping on you.

    Also, sometimes I'm just looking for a simple thank you! Or even a sorry would change everything.

    Also, sometimes ok always I would wish my husband would do more around the house and help with the kids with out me nagging about it. I don't know what you do whether you help around the house her not.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    As a woman I can tell you that it sounds like she needs a serious spanking session. An attitude adjustment is definitely in order here, hopefully you can man up enough to follow through for her as much as for yourself.

  • 10 years ago

    Oh dear, you never read the girlfriend/wife/marriage manual did you? If you still have friends, testicles and a bank account in credit then I suggest you get out of Dodge sharpish - disppearing has never become so much fun.

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    It would appear that there are some serious things going on here. Try couples therapy. Hopefully, you can iron these issues out.

  • 5 years ago

    You can't change or control her. She must decide for herself if she will love herself enough to be happy. In the meantime, if you aren't happy - just go find someone who makes you happy. Trust me! You will not receive a merit badge or award for putting up with her unworkable behavior. And most likely if she ever "comes around" she'll be too embarrassed and prideful to admit she was wrong/change. Marriage dead. Move on!

  • 7 years ago

    She hates you because she is a woman and woman are crazy, the love hormone had died and women are like that but if she sees another girl flirting with you she goes bananas, 80% of women are like that

  • 10 years ago

    Try working something through! (she might be all stressed out) or if nothing changes then move on with your life!

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Couples therapy if that doesn't work it's time for a divorce

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Hormones... Try buying her a gift, some gold earrings should do the trick..

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