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Girlfriend wont commit...?
We are both 41, divorced, she has a 9yo daughter that lives with her and I have two girls 3 & 7 that I have joint custody of. She has fear of commitment having been in a bad marriage for 20 years. We have been together for a year and a half and have yet to move forward in our relationship or include our kids. I have expressed how much I would love for us to get to know each others kids more and start thinking about what we want for our future. We are very much in love, tell each other regularly and talk every day. Our sex life is incredible! We do only see each other once or twice each week or every other week. Our communication styles are very different, I am open in my expression and she bottles things up or avoids.
I am just at a loss as to whether she wants a future with me or if this is leading no where. She just says she needs time and I have been patient. She is definitely worth waiting for but she has very low self esteem and tells me I can do much better then her. How long do I wait? Is this all a test to see if I can be trusted? Am I pushing things too fast? So confused....
2 Answers
- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
Dude, relax and enjoy what you have.
- ?Lv 45 years ago
Every child goes through the same kind of situation - adolescence. Sounds cheesy but we know what you are going through. It's hard not knowing who you are and where you fit in the world. Especailly coming from an abusive home. When you decide to end your life and to end your pain - you are going to hurt everyone who cares about you - Even if you think those people are slim to none. Your girlfriend will be crushed and will think - "what did I do to make him end his life?" When you end your life you scar your loved ones forever. They wont be able to sleep at night or walk into a crowded room. Please think about the effect of your actions. It's an easy way out. Life does get better! You might be addicted to drugs and live in abusive home with an absent father but - there are worse things. You can't always take the easy road out of life. Get out of your abusive home and seek a doctor or psychologist. There are people who are always willing to help. You need to help your self. Suicide is not the answer and when it comes to that point, you are too weak to do it. Remember this is just one stage in your life. You have options - don't you get it?
