I want to leave my husband I have a 17 month old?

I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through. My advise is to get everything ready to leave him without letting him know. Write down all the verbal abusive things he's said. Sounds like he's threatening you. All those things will help you in court. Just be ready to move out. Unless he changes himself to treat you better, you shouldn't be with him. You shouldn't have to waste your time, effort, and energy for someone like him. I'm 20 and been married for 2 years too. I sorta went through the same problems but we don't have a child together. I tried everything (crying, begging, yelling) to work things out and we are making a lot of progress since. If he isn't willing to talk like mature adults and try to better your guy's relationship then maybe he isn't the one. Hope this helps. I'm not trying to diss on your husband but enough is enough.

You are in a very serious situation choosing to end a marriage is a very heavy choice. It sounds like your husband maybe mentally ill. Again I am only hearing your side of the matter. If (no offense) all that you are saying is true before you end your marriage go to your local mental health and have him committed for being a danger to himself and or others. Describe the details you placed here they should act, do not take no for an answer make them understand you have a child involved. This will allow the mental health to step in and evaluate him. If there is something wrong with him he can get help and you can have a happier marriage.

During the time he is visiting the mental health for evaluation you can collect your daughter and find a safe place to stay pending the out come. You will have some serious choices to make after the out come be prepared either way 1). if they find he has a disorder I will ... a). go back to him as long as he stays on the doctor recommended treatment... b). It is to dangerous I need to care for myself and my daughter on my own... any other scenarios you can think up and prepare for. Also his family is not going to be happy about this so be ready to say I love him and I want what is best for him and our family.

As time passes you will see your best path for your situation, if he has other plans and is hanging out all night involving himself with other women and attempts to move on taking your daughter from you. Then you have record of him being in mental health and you stay calm explain that you understand it is in your daughters best interest that she has the best possible relationship with both parents.

You should also contact authorities if he ever causes harm to you or your child.

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You should leave sooner the better. I was in a similar situation like you, but unlike you I stayed

thinking maybe things would get better. It didn't. So take heed to what I say: he will get worse over time, and you will end up being the one in this marriage who will sacrifice everything-and if you wait as long as I did ( I was 21 when I got married and I left now @28). I was the one who like you ended up dropping out of school, getting yelled at, getting crap from my mother in law for being a young mom (my ex was older than me-10years) and ended up being a full time mom who got yelled @ for never "working." The man I was married to like yours did what ever he wanted with credit cards and loans without every consulting me. So, you will struggle in many aspects with him if you stay. My ex was like yours, he was never happy. He tried to be, but I dono . . maybe he was just an unhappy man to begin with. Plus, when ppl get married and have been with a partner for a long time (such as yourself and I), we change and evolve. The girl you were 14 isn't the same person today. You have different needs, wants, and desires. And the partner your with won't ever give it to you. So what do you from here? Go find a lawyer near the city you live in (shop around and see who you like) and have him/her help you file for divorce. You can also file yourself and depending what state you live, you can have your fees waived if you cannot afford it. Also look up the laws regarding divorce since the law varies state to state! I know how you feel, but hang in there girl! If divorce is what you really want, then go and never look back. Have courage and faith things will be better in time! You got all the things done right . . . have your own bank accnt, looking for an apartment etc. (maybe take your name off any credit cards you share with him). . .

Be proud of yourself! There is a great future ahead for you, and a happier life for you and your baby girl! Best of luck to you! ( . . . and if u have a chance, could u answer a question for me? most appreciated!)

I'm sorry... you seem like a spoiled and immature 21 year old.

"he's a good father - but he doesn't help out with what he should"...

Perfect... so instead of getting 80% or 70%... You SHOW him.

And end up with more financial entanglement... and a lot more bills then you need to be taking on.

HINT... it takes TWICE AS MUCH to maintain TWO households than 1.

Look... we know you got knocked up...

And we know you got married to do the right thing...

BUT NOW IS NOT THE TIME... to do the rebellion thing.

You have YOUR CHILD to worry about...

You have... frankly - yourself to worry about.

And SCHOOLING... you don't have time for schooling...

You can't be a full time mom... and go to school...

You also can't be a full time MOM and HAVE A JOB.

What Planet are you living on? Oh wait... don't answer that... we know... Planet MINI-ME!

THIS ISN'T a GAME...

You don't get to be the "hurt princess"... you're the MOM... you THINK you're an ADULT... ACT LIKE ONE.

Find an ADULT... and sit down with them... and have them HELP YOU FIGURE OUT... what you need to do to survive... to make a good home for your 17 month old....

there's no time for ATTITUDE... sorry... all the adults in the room are looking at you saying... WHAT A BRAT.

Go home to your parents or stay with friends or relatives if you can. A last resort would be a Battered Woman's shelter. Do not stay in a situation that leaves you and your child at risk for violence. Continue with school, file for Child Support. Start divorce proceedings. Anyone that threatened me or my child in this manner would be toast. Good Luck and Best Wishes!

Well, looking at your additional details, it sure is a difficult situation. But do know that stress and worry cannot give you cancer symptoms, like lumps. I can't imagine why someone would tell you that.

If you do decide to leave him, your life will be a lot harder in some ways, but maybe that's what you need to do. And there are social services available. Good luck, darling.

Find a good sitter, get a job, find an apartment, stay with your online classes, contact job and family services, get child support set up, see if you can get any other assistance, and file for divorce.

You are on the right track of getting things in order. Continue to get out...from experience this will only continue or get worse.

your both still children just do what most wives to ***** and whine find a guy on the side and wait until the kid is old enough to help out Why do children marry and expect it to work grow up

He should treat you as an equal. You need to make the right decision for YOU and YOUR child, before things get worse.