Girlfriend says she just wants to be friends.?

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First off a little back ground info. We have been dating for a little more then a year and a half. First year things were amazing. We fought a little bit and sometimes the fights were bad but manageable. Come late December right after xmas she says we need to take a break. I fight and whine and do all the things your not suppose to do and eventually a week and a half later shes mine again. Although during that time i found out she chilled with two of her recent ex's. I don't think she did anything but i still don't know for sure. We get past that and things return back to semi normal but not as they were, i could tell something was different. So a few months go bye and now were in the beginning of June. Were out one night with her friend and we fight and her friend didn't want to sleep over at my house on the couch but my girl did, so i respected her friend and brought both of them to my girls house. Well leaving her house i get a phone call and shes telling me this isn't working and then proceeds to remove me from facebook. The next day i show up there and apologize but she says she still doesn't know what to do. So For all of june were pretty good but according to her we weren't "together" and were working things out. The end of june comes around and she finally adds me back on facebook. So now this was three weeks ago. We were friends on facebook but still we were "not in a relationship" and i wasn't allowed to post all over her wall like i wanted. I get a new job 2 weeks ago and normally i would bring her to work every day and pick her up and we would chill after but with the new job she is forced to be independent and drive her self. She stopped texting me as much, didn't chill with me as much and started chilling with her friend more then me. Three weeks go bye with her acting like this and then just yesterday she had her graduation party. We were arguing all morning because i was sick of feeling neglected and hurt and then later that day her and her mom told me to leave. So i get so emotional and go home and am just a wreck. Her friend she has been chilling with tells me that she just wants to be my friend but she wants me to be her best friend. My girl tells me she needs time to think and doesn't wanna be in a relationship right now. So i start blowing up her phone again telling her i love her and i don't want things to be over. I get no response all yesterday and then today i keep up with this and she tells me to "leave her the **** alone" over a text and then after calling her she finally says "just leave me alone today, im not seeing you i just need time alone." Well shes off with her friend as we speak at some beach.

I don't know what to do. I am the type of guy who loves to be around there significant other all the time. I guess im always up her *** you can say. I am a good guy though. Never lied or screwed her over. Always there for her. Do the world for her and her family and now im just trying to figure out what to do. People keep telling me to just leave her alone, but if feel if i do that she will just find another guy cause she will think i don't care any more. (*Side note, i was on her email and have seen she has been talking to guys on facebook, nothing serious except for one kid who she said she missed him and they have been talking about chilling but i don't know whats going on with that.*)....


She hasn't talked to me since this morning when she told me to leave her alone, she removed me from facebook again. And currently she refused to answer my texts.

What do i do. I need help, i figure getting some one else s opinion that isn't involved in the situation could provide me with some help.


***She never told me she just wanted to be friends, he friend who she has been chilling with told me this. Alls my girl said was i need time to think and at one point i dont want to be in a relationship. I dont know whats going on but what do i do.***


ALL IN ALL I THINK HER FRIEND IS DOING THIS, saying the whole "be single with me" ****. How can i win her back if she has that in her ear everyday..

Mamma&#39;s Instincts · Accepted Answer

You are smothering her. A man that wants you is nice but a man that cannot live a few hours without your attention is a sign to run. It is your call how much you think you should be contacting her but I think you have destroyed any chance of getting back together again. Your actions of smothering have pushed her away and now it would be best if you just listened to her. It will not save the relationship but it will save your dignity and maybe if you play your cards right you will earn her respect again enough to be a friend if that is what you are willing to settle for. 

In the end move on...

SORRY

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Ok This what i think : Meaning your relationship seems very serious now what i belive that maybe the friend is the one sending you these things especially on facebook.She might be telling her about things like u dont do like :

Telling Her You Cheat On Her
You Invite Other Girls
You Flirt WIth Other Gurls
Other :)


But Too me the Ex's Could be in the one too she might be with them or so but listen to me i dont think she really wants to break the relationship cause if she told u leave leave her the **** alone maybe she is angry & upset

Try & and so some quizes to know but i think the best friend might be in it :)

Angela · Answer

You seem like a nice guy but this girl just might already have another guy on her mind just leave alone for a few days and if she doesn't talk to you in a week call her again but at this point i am sure there are wonderful girls waiting for you so just relax.

TANYA · Answer

Everyone needs space at time. Maybe she is talking to someone else, maybe she isn't. What you need to do is hang out with your friends. Dont make her the center of your world when she wants space away from you. You might be smothering her which is pushing her away. Dont snoop through her email because when you are vulnerable you are not thinking straight; trust me, i know. my guy has been hiding things from me and i found out on accident now i feel like i can never trust him again. im afraid he wants to do those 'single' things and i'l;l get hurt, so im stressing and it DOESN'T help. Get her off your mind, hang with friends, txt her once tmrw and see if she wants to chill; the movies, beach, lunch etc, if she doesnt reply, dont try and get in touch with her anymore, she will get in touch with you eventually. if she does respond, act cool, dont blow your only chance of spending time with her.
wish you luck!

Ren Smith · Answer

man, first of all im reeeaaalllyy sorry :l

anywho obviously shes really confused and needs time, so instead of constantly trying to help u should NOT talk to her...ik its hard to do but she needs it and after a while whenever shes totally decided what to do with the whole r we in a relationship or not thing....just tell her to get back to u when shes had her time to sort things out without the friend bossing around HER relationship.....and shes obviously pissed at u becuz ur NOT giving her TIME shes getting the vibes of u being waaaaay too clingy so just take a chill pill okay? maybe it isnt meant to be people change over time and thats whats happened with ur girl....sorry bud (: stay positive!!! there r other fishies in the sea!!!!

Margareeta · Answer

she seems like she doesn't want to be with you.  Just get over her and move on.  Your love and devotion deserves to be with someone who will return it back just as much.  Also, it's nice that you care for your significant other but you can't be so clingy which probably was the reason that drove her away.  Give girls space.

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