Which is worse - physical or emotional?

I think when people say that, they mean one night stands, not ongoing physical affairs. I think they are equally disasterous and emotional USUALLY leads to physical eventually. She probably would have felt more justified leaving him if he had slept with you, is probably what she meant. Its hard to justify your anger at someone when you don't have a concrete cause to point out. Most cheaters think they can "write off" any kind of indiscretion, honestly. It's part of the personality traits that make a cheater a cheater.

For me, it would be worse if my wife had a long-term affair with another man, whether physical or emotional. It would be that strong bond with another combined with deception of me that would be the most awful. Honestly, I've told her that a one-night stand or some other nonsense that was basically meaningless would be forgiven if she was honest with me. The sex itself is a minor issue compared to the rest.

emotional affairs seem to happen all the time where physical is quite a different

I think both are cheating.... Actually, if it was just sex then it would be easier to just move on.. Emotional is hard to move past, I think....

women find the emotional involvement worse, while men find the sexual involvement to be the bigger betrayal.