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1 yr old only wants dad, feeling rejected?

My son only wants his dad. Constantly. He follows him around and wants to be held by only him. He does show affection towards me but only in short spurts. Ill grab him to love on him and he screams and crys and wiggles out if my arms.

Im working full time. Rayden goes to daycare. So daddy gets a couple more hours at night when he picks him up a couple hours before I get off. but im feeling sad and rejected. I love that he has a great relationship with his dad. But I carried him and stayed home with him for 8 months of his life. How do I deal with these feelings?

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    I think since he is a bit more with his dad rather than with you he's building more onto how boys/men react.

    Instead of going for hugs/kisses, try incorporating boy games, maybe a football game with him, let him score and then cheer for him and hug him right then as part of the game.

    He'll eventually come around, kids go through loads of phases, and one day he may be doing this and the next he may just cling onto you, don't worry mama :)

    Source(s): personal experience with my two kids
  • ?
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    I think it's a phase. My son went through the same thing when I had another baby. When he was 10 months old (and i was 8 months pregnant) his dad began taking over his care whenever he wasn't at work so I could rest. Once his little sister was born dad stayed home for 3 weeks and cared for him because I was not allowed to lift him, and dad continued to care for him almost exclusively on evenings and weekends until recently. For a while he would scream when dad left the room and would only let him do certain things, like getiing him dressed for example, but then out of nowhere it was like he started to miss me and now he calls MAMA! whenever I'm not in the room or when he gets hungry or tired or falls and bumps himself...You are his mom and he loves you, but he's enjoying bonding with his dad right now, especially since he probably saw less of him when you were home from work. After a while the thrill will ware off some and he'll enjoy time with both of you more equally... don't worry!

  • 10 years ago

    My answer would be very similar to Cherilyn. When my oldest was just turning two a year ago all he wanted was daddy. Right before and after the second baby was born. I had to leave for several weeks and came really close to just leaving him with his dad, I was so frustrated. Now he's almost three and he still loves being with daddy but I get my share of affection too.

    Just make sure and be consistent with parenting and don't try to win him over with bribes. He'll come around. Toddlers are still learning emotion and affection. He has plenty of time.

  • Jill P
    Lv 7
    10 years ago

    Relax. Kids go through all kinds of stages, no matter who works, who stays home, etc. Next week he'll want only you, and you'll be wishing he wanted his dad again so you could have a little space.

    Source(s): Experience -- mom of almost-3-year-old
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  • that's heartbreaking but that's how my daughter act towards her dad and its so sad but i work graves so she sees me all day everyday. try taking time to just do stuff with you and him go to the park take him to the zoo. maybe do it once a week.

  • 10 years ago

    just get over it

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