How do I get past the fear of leaving/being alone?

These days too many princesses, don't have the strength or stamina to deal with normal life problems.

It's actually not hard to save a marriage, just erase the word divorce out of your vocab, accept that this word can not be mentioned and does not exist. Then shut tha f up, do not comment or fight over every single little unimportant detail in your daily un important interractions. If you do tend to pick a fight over stupd sheet, then STOP right there, close your eyes take a deep breath and swallow it! This goes for the man also.

Then plan everything, what days will be for cleaning the house together, shopping, family dining out, sunday sex, monthly date with spouse.. etc. for planning is the key to happiness.

And finally, simplify your lives, do not have massive events, like dinner parties, bday parties, etc that will bring stress to the house hold, not just yet.

Let your partner know that you are happy to give in to anything, as long as your concerns are heard.

How do you get past your fear of leaving and being alone?

By taking action.

When we do nothing, it is easy to be frightened of things we imagine.

But when we take action, we are no longer living in our imagination.

Yes, I lost my in-laws. A huge, loving family. Having grown up in a small, extremely dysfunctional family, these in-laws were the family I'd never had. They kept me in their family until my ex remarried and his wife sulked and pouted whenever I showed up at family functions .. so they stopped inviting me.

You move on. You create a new life. I had some wonderful things waiting for me that I couldn't even imagine at the time. I still keep in touch with his family from time to time, but am no longer "part" of that family.

One thing I hadn't anticipated about becoming divorced was how happy I would be. We had been married for 15 years ... I basically completed my growing up with my husband. But I thought there was something "off" with me, because I had everything I needed to be happy, but wasn't. Turned out that what I needed to complete my happiness was not-being-with-my-husband. You know ... when your marriage isn't working out well, it creates a deep inner unhappiness, that you only recognize in looking back.

'whenever one is contemplating divorce it is natural to be concerned over the lost that comes with it.

Divorce comes with lost of dreams, plans for the future, promises for ever after, lost of life as it used to be. You get through this by first accepting that this is what it means to divorce. It is a painful experience and getting a divorce carries a high painful price. By the time one is ready to divorce things have gotten so bad that one is willing to pay the price that comes with divorce, not with a smile, but with a knowledge that comes with giving up something that was once dear. It is a scary and lonely place to be in. But if even at the cost of divorce you will one day begin to build on new beginnings, new memories, a new way of life. And in time you will forget. Good luck to you on whatever you decide to do.

well i can hear your frustration. I have recently been through a divorce, but i dont have kids. we were married for a while going through the motions and it was terrible, in fact soul destroying. I guess for me if you have to give up who you are its not worth it. I guess also you wake up one day and realiase you are living a lie and for me lifes to short to live a lie. So love your self be your own freind and realise your joy ( not hapiness) comes from with in not without

Do your husband, the children, the extended family ALL a favor & leave. Go away. The kids will be fine without you. YOU are the one who is unhappy so YOU must go. Be gone with you!

you will get through it - it is a grieving process and it takes some time - but you will get through it.