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Second fiddle to my girlfriend?
So, me and my girlfriend have been able to maintain a long-distance relationship for the past 8 months. Just one hour away, no biggie. But, we're both still relatively young (18) and her parents are really strict on her and won't let her drive to visit me. So, I end up driving to see her, which I'll admit does take a toll on me, but I think it's totally worth it.
However, I don't want that to go unnoticed. I want her to appreciate the fact that I drive to see her since she can't return the favor.
Anyways, her and her girlfriends recently took a short mini-vacation to my city (San Diego) and I was really excited to be able to see her and show her my world, basically. She never gets to see me in my natural home environment, so I was really hoping to spend some time with her.
Her and her girlfriends made plans for the weekend, such as going to the beach, shopping, etc. I didn't mind this, because I understand it was a "girl-weekend". But, I asked if I could see her during their downtime, such as early in the morning or late at night when they aren't doing anything. But, she turned me down because she insisted that her and her friends had to do EVERYTHING with each other. EVEN NAP! I told my girlfriend that I was a little upset because we rarely get to see each other like this.
I understand it's a weekend for her and her girlfriends, but we RARELY get to see each other, and I never get to show her my hometown. After all of the times that I've come to see her, and the one time she comes to my city, she blows me off. She says she feels bad for 'ditching' her friends. But, what about me? I'm her boyfriend, who she hasn't seen in weeks. It's not like I'm asking for her to skip out on their plans, but just to save some room in the odd hours so that I can see her!
MY QUESTION IS: DO I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE UPSET? OR AM I JUST BEING PETTY?
If you need any clarification, just ask. Sorry for it being pretty long!
I know her friends, I've met them before, and for the most part, they like me. They spend time together nearly every day!
2 Answers
- MagnusMossLv 710 years ago
Yes, you have a right to be upset.
Robert A. Heinlein questioned whether the emotion of "gratitude" actually exists.
It certainly doesn't in children or women.
Women tend to assume that the guy will do for all the work, pay for stuff, that sort of thing.
I also suspect she is more into you then you into her. She doesn't appreciate what you do because she expects it and doesn't understand how much you are doing. Don't let this fester and expect gratitude down the line. Try to pass on some of the cost of gas to her. See if you can get her to meet at a city partway between.
