My Husband Cheated on me. Do I file for a divorce?

Had to respond... my name is Adriane and I'm also 24.

I can totally relate to being madly in love with someone who has cheated. The wounds are still fresh and when a significant other cheats, it brings a lot of feelings to surface. What you dont realize right now is that unless you are INCREDIBLY forgiving, your feelings of hurt will turn into resentment and trust issues will result. It's easy to think of the good memories and think you can go back to that but that rarely if ever happens. Everything he tells you, every place he goes alone... you will always question if he's lying to you. You will be making yourself miserable and why torture yourself when there are SO many men out there ready and willing to treat you with more respect.

Think about it: he cheated on you with a woman without regard to what he could be exposing you to (STDs). If he cheated on you once, I can speak from experience... he will do it again. Stick to your guns and be strong!

You haven't said what was the reason he specified for cheating (doesn't always matter really) but I'm really sorry for the pain that you are going through. It feels like nothing you do is enough right?

It's a difficult question you are asking, so this is from an article that answers your question, hope it helps:

"Should You Stay or Should You Go?

If the mental shock of finding out about an affair is not enough – Thinking about divorce is another devastating phase you seem to have to go through. It’s like a blow to your gut. Emotionally speaking, a crisis in marriage is second only to dealing with death of a loved one. When your relationship is at such a low point and you are angrier that you gave ever been in your life – Divorce seems like the “natural” solution. But, that is not necessarily true, even if you think that it’s the only way to salvage your lost pride and self confidence. Also, if you haven’t even tried to solve your problems with your cheating partners before the divorce – You may regret it for the rest of your life. This is a LIFE CHANGING decision.

Here Are The Most Important Questions You Should Ask Yourself:

Is your spouse regretting the affair and is sorry for the pain he caused?

Has your spouse ended the affair for sure?

Has your spouse said that he wants to work out your problems and save your relationship?

Is your spouse willing to try marriage counseling?

Does your spouse still love you?

If most of the answers to these questions are YES – Saving your marriage and choosing marriage counseling over divorce is definitely recommended and possible"

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My Husband Cheated on me. Do I file for a divorce?

my husband of 2 years cheated on me. I just found out 3 days ago. We have no children and are in our mid-20's. He only had sex with this women once. The thing that i don't get is that I cook I clean we have sex at least 6 times a week and i feel im a pretty stable women. I also model...

Is this girl still on his facebook? If so, I'd def. leave. He's obviously been up to something for a while. Maybe he wasn't ready to settle down. I don't think anyone other that Christians would take their vows seriously, because it is dealing with God, and what he says about marriage, and for as long as you both shall live. So.....I'd start with counseling. IN the meantime, he would have to delete his facebook. U should have access to his textmessages, via the company, etc. I wouldn't trust him for a very long time, cause truth is, if they do it once, they'll prob.do it again. Wish you luck

Once he cheated, HE broke the vows. You are NOT bound to stay with him.

That being said, you don't have to leave either. I chose to leave only after he made it clear that he had no intention of changing and he'd been with more women than he could count... including prostitutes. He is a sex addict... just lost his second wife because of it. He'll never change.

You have to make this decision for yourself. With counseling, do you think he'll change and do you think you'll be able to forgive and trust him? These are the questions you need to ask yourself.

I notice that many women like yourself always say the other woman is not as pretty. Don't think he even considered pretty in what he did. Cheating is all about being selfish. It's just sex to a man.

It doesn't matter if it's once or 60 times. The trust is now gone in your relationship and I see you checking on him, looking on his computer, checking his phone.....it's over now. I'm sorry but that is a fact you must face.

It's all on you, Adrian.

You have to decide if you can move on from the cheating and the relationship is good enough to withstand this, or not.

Nothing says you can't try again and see if it works.

However, if you really can't get over the cheat (which I wouldn't blame you for) then really, don't waste your time.

Good luck to you!

i´m so sorry to hear this. well, seems like this man is stupid: he already has a loving and beautiful wife but that is not enough for him, i guess nothing and nobody will never b enough for him, he´s sick. u don´t want to be married with a sick person. a spouse should b a person who thinks with his brains not with his penis, and seems like this man is not trustworthy, i mean, what´s he going to do when u guys get pregnant, or when u guys decide to buy a house??? I´d say: leave him. U r still young and can find a better man for a spouse. Next time just be wiser, get to know him well before u open ur heart.

Enjoy ur sister, enjoy ur life, count ur blessings. It was not ur fault for his. Learn from this experience and be happy. Good luck!

This is tough, and only you can decide. He needs to say something to you that will give you peace of mind. If you take him back he may think he can do it again and have you stay. The trust has been broken so you would have to live everyday wondering where he was, what he was doing and who hes talking to. That will wear you down FAST! If you cant live without him though, then maybe its worth it?

I do not have time for cheaters. I just don't. A lot of women do, and a lot of men do, but no matter how much I love someone, the moment they do something like that, it tells me loud and clear that they do not love me as I love them, so it is time to move on to someone who does. Good luck on your situation. Besides, honestly, once is enough honey,