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This is going to sound untrue, but I assure you it is and I am in turmoil?

I was introduced to a man that just got out of prison for money laundering 30 years ago. He became a Deacon in prison and has a very strong faith. Now that he is out he gets to keep all but 25% of the money that he had stashed in different banks. The millions collected interest. He now has a few billions. I have only known him one week and has purchased a 52,000. vehicle for me because mine was breaking down. I didn't want to accept it, but he told me no strings and consider it a gift from God. Since he has been in prison for 30 years he is ready to hit life large and fast. He wants me by his side. I am scared out of my mind. I like my life. I worked hard all of my life and have been a single mom for 25 years. He is a very giving man and a sweet man. He is waaaaay to affectionate. It is almost creepy. I understand why, I just can't handle it. He doesn't believe in sex before marriage, but the constant touching, hand holding, rubbing my leg when I drive, etc. I am never left alone. This is very shallow, but I am not physically attracted to him. There has to be some sort of chemistry between two people in order for things to proceed. I try to tell him to slow life down a bit, but he says he lost 30 years and with this money we can fly all over the world and want for nothing. That terrifies me. That means I have to change my life and am afraid of losing myself. I have a feeling he is controlling and I am not one to be controlled. My heart vibrates from nerves and I am always sick to my stomach over this. It has only been one week and he has my entire life planned for me. He tells me he doesn't believe in prenups so what's his is mine if we get married. I don't want all that money in my life. If everyone has everything they could ever want in the world what else is there to dream about? I worked very hard for my nice home and my children's lives that has given me a lot of pride...it is what "I" did. If I have all the money I could ask for just handed to me I feel I will lose my independence and the ability to feel that pride again. Does this make any sense? I am so overwhelmed that I cry myself to sleep at night. It is all happening so fast that I don't have time to take it all in. This guy is in love after one week? He tells me he feels centered now because I am in his life. God sent me. That is a lot of pressure. He also thinks I should feel the same and seems to know all there is to know about relationships and how they should go. Everyone is telling me I am stupid, that I could have the world at my feet. Am I wrong for wanting to keep my simple life? This guy has come on so strong and feels he needs me to keep him in line with all this money. I don't want to be responsible for billions of dollars! I always picked the bad boys, the jerks. Here is a man who would be good for me so I am trying. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do?

Update:

I feel if my heart isn't happy or is in turmoil with a man than all the money in the world won't make me happy. Thanks everyone for your input

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago
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    So listen! I'm only 15! ha ha! But it seems like you have your mind made up! If you feel that way then just tell him you think he's moving too fast! It's understandable that he feels that way! Wouldn't everyone after 30 years in a hell hole? He doesn't want to lose any more time, and he feels that his money can buy him the life he missed out on! It is your life so you have a right to decide how it leads!

    I hope this helps! :)

  • 10 years ago

    If you do not feel the same you need to end this w/ him asap. Im curious where did you meet him at? People who are released from prison after long sentences like that have a very hard time adjusting to the real world, which is prob why he's smothering you.

    I myself would not want a relationship w/ this man, but I would take any gifts he gives lol

    Sounds to me like you don't share the same feelings as he does, so don't talk yourself into "trying" to gain feelings. If he doesn't want to accept your friendship then that is his loss.

    Good Luck and BE SAFE

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Not faith, however accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior, confessing your sins to Him, and then following the Lord. Faith. The international wants to pigeonhole the whole thing into "logical" and "medical". one million Corinthians one million:18-20 (New Living Translation) New Living Translation (NLT) Holy Bible. New Living Translation copyright © 1996, 2004 via Tyndale Charitable Trust. Used via permission of Tyndale House Publishers. The Wisdom of God 18 The message of the move is silly to those that are headed for destruction! But we who are being saved realize it is the very vigour of God. 19 As the Scriptures say, “I will wreck the knowledge of the shrewd and discard the intelligence of the smart.”[a] 20 So in which does this leave the philosophers, the scholars, and the sector’s brilliant debaters? God has made the knowledge of this international seem silly.

  • 10 years ago

    I would go along an live life to the fullest with this guy. 25% of a boatload of money is still a lot. LOL. Enjoy life and with this guy it sounds affordable to live it to the hilt.

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  • 10 years ago

    Run! I work with prisoners & I can tell you....RUN RUN RUN!

  • 10 years ago

    I would stay away from that for sure!!!

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