I use to be pro-life, but now that it's me...I'm considering an abortion. Help me weigh the pros and cons?

The very first thing I want to say is good for you for weighing this permanent decision so heavily.

The next thing is to remind you of God's promises. As a Christian woman, I'm sure you know the Bible and how God has promised us that we will always have food, shelter and clothing. As He says in Luke 12:27 how glorious the lilies of the field are and they don't toil or spin, God will take care of you and your children. It all comes down to faith. God wants us to count on Him during our dark periods.

Just because you have 2 children does not mean that a good Christian man won't come into your life and be a wonderful father to both of your children. God can do all things! Not just the ones that seem plausible to us, but ALL things.

I would think the last thing you want your 7 year old to witness is you making this permanent decision that goes against the moral fabric that you are raising him in. Also, could it cause him any insecurity in the future, if things got hard, would he be afraid that you might need to let him go?

I really don't want to be harsh with you and feel your pain and struggle. If you are a single mom, you are already a very strong woman and with God's help you can do it!

Often times it doesn't appear as if we have the tools to cope until we actually need them. This is something that you can handle and you know that once you hold that precious baby in your arms all your doubt will vanish.

The idea of being a single parent of 2 seems overwhelming right now, but others have done it and you can do it as well. I'm not sure if you are familiar with the pastor Joel Osteen. He has his sermons from his church in Houston broadcast on TV every Sunday. I strongly urge you to visit his website and perhaps getting one of his book from the library. I truly believe he can help you with the tools you need to not only survive this situation but to be victorious in this situation.

God bless you and I will be keeping you in my prayers.

Unfortunately in a weak moment, you got yourself into the mess. Is it fair to make the child suffer by murdering him/her?

If your mother had aborted you when you were still a foetus, you would not be here asking this question on Yahoo Answers.

That should be enough to show you right there, that abortion is murder. You will never get over it. You may be able to push down your conscience for the time being but these things have a habit of rising up when you least expect it.

Don't have an abortion my dear. God could be blessing you with a wonderful Moses, or King David, or Abraham or Job. How do you know this isn't God's will for you?

I would have the baby if I were you and ask God to provide for him/her. Ask God to forgive you because you know you have messed up but ask Him to be the baby's Father for you.

Well, from what I read it's

For abortion: I'm thinking about the baby's future, my son, myself, and our family as a whole.

Having the child: I'm thinking about me.

Of course in the end, this is something you really need to decide for yourself. It's something you'll have to live with, and it's not something any of us on Y!A will likely even think about in a years time.

I'm not going to answer your question but give you a bit of info. I lost my dad and have had other siblings since. I never once felt jealous that my younger siblings have a father or even have one with less problems/who is better suited to parenthood than mine. I was/am actually very happy for them. Don't get me wrong though, I loved my dad to bits.

I am pro-choice btw so not trying to guilt trip you or anything.

Stop being irresponsible and deal with the decisions you have made.

You have no one to blame but yourself. Should someone else pay the price? I'm all about pro choice, but you have to decide if you can forgive yourself for aborting your baby.

Also, you should file for social security benefits from the father for your first child and make sure if you keep the second to file for child support.

Go buy some birth control and condoms.

Remember the old saying,"Two wrongs do not make a right"? You made a mistake but you do not have to make another because of it. No baby is ever a mistake. You may have a hard road ahead, the path of a transgressor is hard, but receive God's forgiveness and ask him for strength to meet all your NEW challenges. He is more than willing to do so. I will pray for you and add you to my long term prayer list. God Bless and keep you!

I find it interesting that you were adopted, yet you wouldn't consider that option. Would you rather have never existed?

You are asking about personal choices only you can answer. Good luck.

You could put it up for adoption. At least you'd be letting it live then but it's your choice. You are essentially preventing a life if you choice an abortion.

Pros of having the baby: it WILL increase your faith because you will have to rely on God more. You will not be guilty of murdering your own child. This child may bring you more joy than you can imagine now. All your excuses are selfish, and unjustifiable.

Cons to having this child: there are none. Your life will be enriched.

You obviously took a lot of time to ask this, and I'm sorry I can't put the same effort into returning the gesture.

Abortion is wrong. There is a person growing in you, it deserves to live. She/he deserves to live. Don't take that away. If you have to, give the baby up for adoption. There are plenty of people looking for a healthy baby.