Friends are not helping my eating disorder!!?

**** them baby girl, you need to look out for yourself, I have anorexia one of my friends is aware of this, and she's there for me but I know sometimes it's awkward for her and she went through a similar thing last year so she sort of knows how it feels, but I know she doesn't get the mental sort of controlling side of it, and I can see she finds it hard to be there for me sometimes, maybe this is a similar thing to what your friends are doing, although they just sound like idiots.

I also have bipolar, my friends know that when I am about to slip into a bad depressed state I need support, I am a very sociable person always out with them, a few weeks ago, I started to slip into one of these states, my friend who knows about the anorexia was on holiday, the people that I am supposed to belong to, like my best friend for example (she is my best friend I just don't want her to know about the anorexia because she wouldn't understand) they were aware I had started going, I was at a party and got really drunk and ended up on a roof and they all found out I was self harming again, I didn't see them for a week and a half, not a text, not a phone call not even a message on Facebook asking me if I was ok, and I wasn't I just needed to know people where there for me, in the end I ended up going to a real strict strong Christian for help, thank god she was there or I don't know what I would've done.

From this I have learnt there are not many people in this world who are capable of being real friends, and they are alienated by things they don't understand, the biggest problem is that they don't understand.

You need to just look after yourself ok, forget them they don't mean anything, now I want you to go and eat some fruit, I need to.

We deserve it, look after yourself and make yourself stronger from this, everyone learns they have to look after themselves eventually so you just need to be strong and look after yourself:)

Cheer up:D

It's rubbish being sad all the time, no fun:D

I would go make myself some sushi... and eat it. Or a really nice dish in a small amount and try my hardest to eat it and not be sick.

Look if they're talking about you behind your back what kind of friends are they???? Overcome your problem step by step and prove them wrong and find some better friends because you are so worth it. Just try your hardest to get better and maybe don't focus on this too much because its likely to cause you added stress that YOU don't need.

Please keep trying I know you can do it.

I can kinda relate to your situation....did an out-patient program for 9 weeks because i thought i was depressed, really thought so because i had suicidal thoughts. Turns out im just really emotionally unstable.

Anyway, i told 3 of my closest friends....they've all acted different then expected. One, who i had thought was my bestest friend.....completely ignored me claiming she was busy although she had time for all her other friends. The girl i thought would understand least turned out to be really supportive...although she didnt understand why i self-harmed i could tell she really cared. And the other girl has been the most in contact with me more then any of them which is a change because shes the one i usually dont talk to a whole lot and isnt as talkative with me as rest of my group.

Its really hard figuring out who your real friends are....and its especially hard when your going through a tough time like this because you need them more then anything. I did try this thing called Reiki and the lady doing it is a medium too....so i've communicated through her with my gran who passed 5 years ago...and shes been huge support for me. She told me its ok to make new friends and to welcome change...so maybe i do need to make new friends...i dont know.

But also i used to cut myself before i started o i ut-patient...only the month before i seeked help. Then i stopped...but 4 weeks later i couldnt help doing it once. They made such a fuss so i stopped the cutting but ended up going to making myself sick...so after two weeks of doing it i told one of those 3 friends who told me 3 yrs ago she used to bulimic, thinking she'd be real helpful...but she basically told me to go talk to my therapist and that im not the only one with problems. Maybe it was too touchy for her...like as if i was waving an alcoholic drink in front of a recovered alcoholic kinda thing...but i do understand if that was the case and i should have been more sensetive to that.

Anyway, sorry i've gone on...but i just wanted you to know i can relate to your situation. I hope you're ok, best of luck on your road to recovery! :)

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i would eat!