LGBT: How do you tell your boyfriend you have trust issues?

Let me tell you a little secret: The act of telling him you have difficulty trusting people is putting more trust in him. Explaining all the reasons why this is, that's also trusting him. If you can put yourself out on the line a little, you'll solve two problems at once. Sit him down and tell him that you really need to talk to him about something. Explain that you've noticed how important trust is to him, and then say that you're going to have to trust him right now. Then, explain your issue and where it comes from. Stress that any lack of trust on your part is not his fault, it's your reaction to your past flaring up where it shouldn't, and you're trying to work on it. Ask him to help. Chances are, he will. Phrased like that (asking for his help in working on it, because it's your personal weakness), it shouldn't hurt him all that much, and it expresses a lot of trust anyway.

Good luck.

In any relationship- homosexual or heterosexual- trust is extremely important...

I know exactly how you feel right now, and it's a sticky situation.

How your boyfriend reacts really depends on him as an individual.

He may be upset at the idea of you not trusting him, but if he's understanding he won't take it personally & he'll help you.

It's best not to hold things in, but go over the things that you want to say and word it in a delicate way that doesn't accuse or hint towards accusation but let's him know what has happened.

Good luck sweety, if it's meant to be things will work out!

You say "honey, I have trust issues because I was hurt allot in the past" then you go see a councilor and work though those things. He cant be hurt too bad if your being Honest and your making an effort to change.

Besides, trust isn't something you just let people keep when they have done nothing trust worthy to you.

you need to let him know about your past and how much you have been hurt. he needs to know you have a trust issue. it may hurt him, it may not. but you really need to tell him so the both of you can work on it together. and if he really cares about you, he'll help you along that road of bringing trust between the two of you. :)

tell him. you are in a relationship with him and he should know how you feel. tell him what happened in the past. if there is no reason why you cant trust him then trust him. he has done nothing wrong.

I think you need to tell him this, because if he finds out later he will be really mad. Say "I've been trying to find a way of how to say this, but I havee trust issues" make it clear that its not him, explain your issues in the past, but don't be like "its not you, its me" CLASSIC TACKY BREAKUP. you need to really explain everything. if he gets mad, keep calling, texting, emailing, IMing until he answers.

Try not to project your past onto your future.

Your dragging some baggage with you and - when your ready - just give in. Tell him about your previous relationships and how they hurt you.

You don't mistrust HIM - you mistrust partners - there is a difference.

Hope you can make it work :)

If you have trust issues, you're not ready for a relationship. That's what you tell him.

If he has manifested specific behavior for you to mistrust him, talk with him relating those examples. Be open to hearing explanations if they are offered and than look for consistency between words and behavior.

what your doing is gonna **** you over in the future, you cant dwell on the past, move on, have a new perspective