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Friend is influenced by my eating disorder!?
Im 18 years old and Ive suffered with anorexia for around 2 years but it didn't get really serious until march when my body was shutting down and I was in hospital, my friend is abit overweight and they have tried diets and exercising etc to try to lose weight and they say that nothing works, well ive noticed that they are not eating, I confronted them about it because I don't want them to go through what I have and struggle every single day! They admitted to me that they are not eating and I asked them to stop and be healthy, the response I got was "you can't talk" what should I do!! I HATE that my struggles have influenced other people to Starve!!!! My friend even asked me to starve with them for support! I'm in recovery!!!
4 Answers
- 10 years agoFavorite Answer
Hey Chick,
You must remeber that this is not your fault, what you have is an illness that can not simply be 'past on' to your friends.
I think forst and formost to see what you ahev been through and then get the response 'you can't talk' would suggest that these people aren't your friends at all.
My advise would be to just concetrate on your self and try to get as healthy and stable as possible and then you can be there for others.
Hope all goes well for you
x
- 10 years ago
Make sure she/he knows that by not eating, even if they lose weight at first, it will seriously mess up their metabolism, maybe even for life.
You need to understand that it is not your fault she/he isn't eating, but being overweight is actually one of the easiest ways for people to start stupid diets. What you have is a illness, what they are doing is trying to drop pounds for appearance. A lot of people with low self esteem think that if they lose the weight they will feel better, but honestly i think that they will probably end up stopping in a few days or weeks.
It might not be easy, but you are in recovery (which by its self is really hard), you probably shouldn't be around them as it could trigger you..
I hope you are ok, and good job by saying no to the 'starving buddy's' thing :)
Source(s): my own eating disorder. - Anonymous10 years ago
Stay strong and don't "starve for support" with them. they should go see a nutritionist ASAP to help them out. nutritionists can also help them loose weight the HEALTHY way! If they "really need to loose weight", they should just count calories and NOT eat carbs (bread, pasta, rice, cereal) and do regular exercise - everyone can loose weight that way! tell your friends in detail of your health issues that you might have (hair loss, digestive issues, etc.) whatever you are struggling with, so that they know HOW horrible anorexia is! Congrats on going into recovery! that's awesome and I'm sure you're a huge inspiration to all people who have eating disorders. keep it up!!!
- Ranchmom1Lv 710 years ago
Good for you for not going along with what they are suggesting. Even though you have had anorexia, you are *not* responsible for anyone else's choice to starve him or herself. I would tell them that if they are unwilling to help themselves, you will ensure they get help by telling their parents what they are doing. As you know, you can die from this so it is a matter of life and death, so do it.
Wishing you well.
