My boyfriend died...I have serious depression and need help?

First, applause for the best grammar I have seen all year in yahoo answers. Second, your story has touched my heart, so I must tell you this. Your life is no where near over. You have a lot of friends and family who can feel your pain. There is so much to experience in life, just keep on going like he would have wanted you to do. Again, I am sorry for your lose and hope you find light in this traumatizing experience.

Kimia jaberi and to the girl that wrote this if you still look at this post. My boyfriend passed away may 19 of 2014 he's been gone for a little over a year and I still have horrible pain from it. Sometimes I can't even ber to think about what I have gone through. He died on his graduation night. He has just turned 18 a few months before that. It has been the most awful event I've ever had to deal with. Everyone says that time heals everything and with time it gets easier. I guess that depends on the type of person. I miss my Ron's more and more each and every day. I love him more than anything in the world. I got blamed and ganged up on for his death. We had our whole life's planned. As far as a wedding and what our kids names would be. I just now got into therapy a week ago. You will eventually learn to adjust but the heartache and pain doesn't go away. He is always with you just try to be the person he'd want you to be. May our boyfriends rest in peace.

It's completely understandable that you're depressed about this. And I'm so so sorry that this happened to you. But just remember that you're not the only one going through this pain, and always know that you're not alone. Sooner or later, you're gonna have to go back to school and start your life again. And I'm positive that Justin would want you to be that happy girl he once knew you as. It's going to take a while, and it sure as hell is going to be tough, but there will come a day when you'll get your life back together again, and just remember that he will always be by your side. I know it's tough, and I can't even imagine going through what you're going through. But I can tell you this; I know how it feels to have something horrible come crashing down in a millisecond. It happens so fast. And it's really painful. It really ******* hurts. But it gets better. I can tell you that.

I hope this helped. And I hope you keep fighting. You can do it. All the best wishes.

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My boyfriend died...I have serious depression and need help?

I’m a 16 year old girl, and I had a boyfriend who was 17 named Justin. We’d known each other our whole lives. We live in a small town so our grandparents grew up together and so did our moms. They are very close and always have been. Justin and I grew up as best friends. When we were little tiny...

I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine going through what you are. I can't tell you I know how you feel because I don't. I can't tell you everything will be alright because it isn't. The best thing you can do is try to go to school. Try to live your life the way Justin would want you to. Talk about him as much as you can. Think of everything good that you two had. Tell everyone stories. Write him letters. Listen to songs that remind you of him when he was alive. Remember he may not be here in person, but he will always be in your heart and with you every day of your life. Now you have a guardian angel. Talk to his mom. I am so sorry. I hope it gets better. Just know people love you and are here for you.

Only time will heal you, and even then you won't be fully better, but that's the way it is. He took a part of you because you two were one. Bare through it, even if it's hard, and stay alive so you can reach that point where you're healed. Being healed DOES NOT mean you won't think about him a lot necessarily, it means you will be able to function and carry on his legacy. You were close to him so it is your responsibility to keep him alive as much as you can! Suicide would take more of him off of this earth. Keep that hoodie safe. A keepsake will keep him with you more. Feel his presence, but remember you have to be able to function. As for school...this is one of those times when there's something more important than it, which in my beliefs rarely happens. School is important, but it's preparation in life will do you no good if you can't function. So take your time to get better, don't rush yourself. Remember, the more you cry the more you are proving you love him and miss him-if he is watching you it would touch him to see how much you are crying. It would be the ULTIMATE I love you. But killing yourself would be the ultimate I hate you. remember that. so...to summarize this...time will heal you, bare through it. your tears show you love him, your life shows not all of him is dead. and about not going to the funeral...don't regret it later. funerals are to mourn, and I would say that you probably were one of the people that mourned for him the most. good luck getting your life on track, and if things are not getting better by time please see a psychiatrist to get your life on track. yahoo answers is not enirely accurate, just like this all I typed may not be the best advice, so give yourself what you deserve and actually see a psychiatrist soon.

Praying for you, I can't imagine how hard this must be. I agree that you should see a professional greif counselor or at least your school counselor who can give you more resources to work through your greif. It will be a long, hard journey, but Justin also wouldn't want you to be so miserable, so you owe it to him and yourself to get help (and antidepressants probably aren't the answer). I gave my life to Christ and discovered that personal relationship with Jesus in high school and college years and that was the best thing I ever did, so if you already have that relationship, lean on Jesus and if you don't, I urge you not to wait any longer to ask him into your heart and to help you. It truly is about a relationship (not religion, though we personally love our church family too) with Jesus, the Holy Spirit (our comforter) and God the father. You can go to Him in prayer and imagine yourself curling up in his lap and talking/crying with your heavenly father and He can give you some strength and peace to get through this, although it will still be a long healing process. A great book I've read that should help you is When Answers Aren't Enough, Experiencing God as Good When Life Isn't, by Matt Rogers. He used to be (a personal friend, as well as) co-pastor of the college ministry where my husband and I met at Virginia Tech (I was my husband's first girlfriend and we saved ourselves for each other too). He discusses losing his childhood best friend, the Virginia Tech massacre, etc and coping with depression, even if you're a Christian. It really is a good book, look it up on Amazon or Barnes & Noble, published by Zondervan.

Hi,...

I know it's been 4 years and I just saw this now ... Probably you have moved on and feeling a lot better ...

My boyfriend died yesterday morning 29th of July 2015 ... Yes he left ...

He had an accident with a bus while he was riding his bike , he collapsed his lung and broke his arms ... He had 2 operations , he didn't wake up after his operation , for a week , they said he had a brain injury , they tried waking him up , but nothing ... No respond ... Just that when ever I called and they put the telephone next to his ear , he started tearing up ... But then They did a test , and he failed it , and he passed away yesterday ...

Yes ... I feel broken , shattered ... But I really need your help ... After 4 years ,.. Give me advice ... On how to live without someone who meant the world to you ?

Thank you

read the book the pact. its a story that reminds me of yours but different. Im truley sorry about your loss and you seem like a great girl and do not deserve this. I say give it the weekend. mourn cry and talk about this boy until your heart is content. Do not try to let go of him, just accept that he is gone. he was a great part of who you are andyou can never truely let him go. time heals all wounds and this time yours might take a while. ask your mom to in roll u in counseling. not b.c ur depressed just b.c u may want someone who is there. even if your there for an hr and never say one word as long as you know someone is there when you need them. turn ur phone on and text your friends saying im sorry ill talk when im ready just give me time. everything will be okay u just need to take one day at a time. good luck hun. what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger

I am SOOO sorry! That is terrible! I wish I could be there for you. Just so you know. You are normal. You are AMAZING! I'm sorry this had to happen to you. God is there for you to talk to. He's always there to listen. He loves you more than any one ever could. Your boyfriend, his love is the second most person who loved you.

He would want you to be happy. So go out and talk to your friends. Tell them how you feel. Maybe going to school is too soon, but you're going to need to some time.

Remember people love you. You're loved by many. You're an amazing girl. Remember that.

My Boyfriend was murdered August 7th 2015. I still cry every day I beg him to take me with him but hew doesn't listen to me. I miss him every day, I talk about him every day. there isn't a minute I don't think about him. even though I have my family support I feel lonely. I was with him for 6 years had our own apartment together. I just want to know if its true that times heals? How do I keep going with out him by my side!?