Our marriage, their wedding?

It seems like that happens a lot, my mom, m-i-l and siblings hijacked my plans so it was more theirs than mine. bride's maid dress an issue for my sister(did not like what I wanted) bride's maids an issue for my brother (he wanted me to choose his friend) everything else an issue for everyone else.

I love the phrase! I hadn't heard that.

But it wasn't the case for us. I knew exactly what I wanted, and my hubby backed me up. A couple of his family members had issues (mainly his bro's wife, who was "highly offended" that this was a night wedding and adult only). He shot her down and that was the end of that.

In most cases I think it's annoying, but normal, and people (like you) just get through it and go on to happy married life. But every now and then, when it becomes completely over the top, I think the couple needs to take a step back. That's because one or both of them is showing an inability to start shifting priorities over to their SO, and they're still too beholden to what mom and dad say. Obviously, this can lead to big problems if not dealt with.

I would say that's a correct assessment for the most part. A lot of people have issues with their parents interferring too much. Mine will be interesting. Our parents are in the "you guys need to wait longer" phase but once they understand that we ARE getting married next year, I have a feeling we'll be getting a lot of input.

I'm only 16, but of-course every girl dreams of her wedding!

I think there is alot of pressure surrounding tradition and other peoples expectations. Money is a big issue too.

I think the best answer is:

IM ELOPING!

not at all. my husband and i are very strong willed and we got exactly what we wanted for our wedding, i don't know if thats because we financed most of it. my in-laws did pay a substantial amount of money towards it tho and they asked if they could invite some people that we'd never even met before and we said no, we didn't want anyone at or wedding who we didn't know and they understood and appreciated that. Our wedding was amazing and completely as we wanted it. It was our day afterall!

No problem for me, because I only met my MIL once before my marriage, he tricked me!!

Oh gosh, not at all. I did not have that type of parent IN THE LEAST. I was on my own.