Trying to move on but it is SO hard to do...?

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I had an EA and have asked a bunch of question on it. I keep going back and forth as things had somewhat escalated again and I had hope that my EA wanted to be with me. I finally got him to admit that while he loves me, he cannot "destroy his family" so he will NEVER be with me. So it is finally totally over.
But I admit I am heartbroken. We were wrong - believe me, I KNOW it. But I do love him - I fell in love with him. We talked a future and kids and a life together. It was a lie for him, but not for me. Anyway, what do I do to heal and move on? Please know I am trying with my husband - we are in counseling - but he does not know of the affair. The EA - strictly emotional - was a symptom of a marriage that was bad for a long, long time. It took me trying to kick him out for him to finally go to counseling after my begging for over two years...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

your husband does not deserve for you to be playing with his feelings and with him but remember paybacks a *****

? · Answer

For starters, God wont bless any relationship (be it purely emotional or sexual) if it's not appropriate. If you dont believe in God... then call it karma. That relationship could never work and it's obvious your marriage is lacking something major for you to be seeking a relationship elsewhere. The right thing to do would have been to seek counseling in the first place or divorced him once you felt the need to cheat. For his sake, don't tell him you cheated. I would divorce him before I tell him that - you will likely destroy him. 

Learn from this experience and allow yourself to grow from it. Extramarital affairs never end in joy and happiness. How many happy, old couples in rocking chairs reminisce about how they met when the other was cheating on their spouse? None! 

Make things right with your husband once and for all... channel that energy you spent on this other man and put it into something worth your time - your family.

Malissa · Answer

What is a EA???? And it is always hard to end a relationship however if their has been infidelity in the relationship then try forgiving and if it cont. to happen then you just have to let it go. And if your the persons that has cheated and your partner has acted like they can not forgive you and just do not want to be around you then maybe its the end of the relationship every one can move on however it takes time to mend your heart. Take it day by day

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Trying to move on but it is SO hard to do...?

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