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Girlfriend in another college?

So me and my girlfriend are both 18 years old, freshmen in college.

We're in a long-distance relationship, and we have been ever since we've first started going out, which is a little less than a year ago. I'm from San Diego, she's from LA. She goes to college in Santa Barbara now which is about twice the distance, and I'm going to a community college a few miles from my house.

Even though I hate to admit it, I'm a little bit of the jealous type. Since I'm not there to be with her everyday, I feel uncomfortable when she talks and hangs out with guys that I don't know. Now that she's in college, I feel more out of control since there's a lot of horny college guys and my girlfriend told me that she wants to go out to party since she doesn't want to be the girl who stays home all the time. I'm highly uncomfortable about it, but she just tells me I'm overreacting. I'm learning to just go with it, and just trying to be the best boyfriend so that she can see that she'd be losing out if she decided to cheat.

But, with her in a university, she's meeting new friends, and basically has an entire new life. I can only see her through webcamming, but she's hardly home to talk to. I feel like I'm slowly being pushed out in a way. Before college, we would webcam every moment we got, but now she has new friends, she's on her own without her parents watching over, so she always goes out, and the change is so sudden that I feel like I don't play a part in this "new" life of hers.

I'm going to visit her in two weeks, so I that I can try to meet her friends, learn her new environment so that I can kinda squeeze myself back into her world.

I know, I should let her explore since she's in college, and I want to, but I don't have anybody to really talk to now that she's so busy. I go to school in the morning, then work all day until night. The friends that I do have only know how to drink alcohol and smoke weed, and I grew out of that phase a long time ago. So I'm starting to feel alone, I don't want to lose her, but I don't want to suffocate her at the same time.

I just want to feel like I still play a part in her life, and I want her to miss me, to show me that she still wants me. I probably give her too much of me, and so I decided to take a break.

Just a little white lie, and it's the only lie I've ever done in the relationship, but I told her that my phone and internet is disconnected for the next week or so. I'm just trying to see how she reacts without me in her life, and at the same time I'm trying to discover myself without her as well. I still love her, I'm not trying to break up with her or anything like that.

So it's not really a question, but I just wanted to get some perspective from other people. Sorry if it's too long!

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  • 10 years ago
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    Don't be in a relationship freshman year. You'll miss out on so much. Yea, the break up after math will suck, but you won't be the only freshman going through this and I'm sure you'll be able to get some, um, sympathy, from other freshman girls. Also you won't have the guilt of feeling like you're holding your girlfriend back from fully experiencing college.

  • 10 years ago

    I currently go to school in Santa Barbara and I'm a Freshman as well. From what I have seen here so far, the people are crazy- especially the Freshmen because of their new-found freedom. However, it's possible your girlfriend is just in the process of adjusting and figuring out what college life is like and that's why she has been distant. As for you, I feel you need to ask yourself if your okay with her going out and raging with thousands of other college students, because honestly, that's all everyone here does because their is nothing to do. I wish you the best in your relationship! Good luck! :)

    Source(s): I live in Isla Vista, CA
  • 10 years ago

    ive been there and from exprience i t hink you guys are too young so your best option is to breakup. i mean she is away and will meet guys and the chances of high school relationships lasting are one in a hundread so its not worth it. as you will also see there are alot of girls and guys out there so you will find someone closer sooner or later. its not worth conting something that wont last. goodluck

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    You can resolve yourself to the fact that it is not going to work either now or later.

    But either way, it's over buddy.

    Move on

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