My parents wants to take my son and move?

In all that, the only question I can find is asking if your parents are being selfish.

No, I don't think so. On the contrary, they're trying to be generous and helpful. However, they want to help in a way you don't want. So tell them, "Thanks, but not thanks."

You're 36. Your parents have no right to take your child away. Why does your boyfriend say you can move in with him IF your parents leave? Perhaps you need to move in NOW so the both of you can be together to raise your child. Just because your parents don't like an idea doesn't mean you still can't live your life on your terms not theirs. I'd start packing and let your child have the time to know his father. He is the father and does have rights and responsibilities to his child as well.

Your child's father cannot make you marry him, or make you move in with him. He can, however, prevent your son from being taken all the way to freaking Alabama! He has parental rights! If you went along with this, you would be insane! No way would I allow someone to take my child away and miss years of his growing up!

Honey, you are 36, not 16! Get on your own two feet. If you seriously intend to marry your child's father, just do it. Then you can raise your child together, the way it should be. If you don't want to, then don't. But you need to get out of your parents house and lives, and out from under their rule. Work when your child's father is off work and can watch him. If that isn't possible, get a sitter or put him in daycare. There are many very good sitters and daycares, you just have to check them out thoroughly. Have your son's father help pay for it. Get your own place if you do not want to move in with him. If you cannot afford an adequate place, apply for Section 8 housing until you can.

Your parents are not obligated to care for your child, but it is not their place to dictate where or how he will be raised, either. What they like or trust does not matter. Thank them for their advice, then do what you and the child's father think is best.

In most religions, God forgives sinners who repent. If you have asked for forgiveness, you can quit carrying the guilt around, it is taken care of. Don't use that as a crutch. You cannot get strong and independent until you stand on your own two feet and take charge of your life and your son.

I was much younger than you when I had my children. I, too, had meddling parents who believed they could raise my kids better than I could. Financially speaking, that was true. Money isn't everything, though, and it was not my parents job to raise my kids. I made my own way, doing whatever I had to do. I did have to apply for WIC and food stamp assistance at times. I made sure my kids had nutritious food to eat, a warm bed, a clean home and clean clothes, some toys, a daily bath, and plenty of love and attention. If you can check all those boxes at the end of the day, you are doing fine.

There will be bumps in the road. Your child will occasionally get sick, all kids do, your car will break down, your sitter will have an emergency, or your paycheck will not reach all the way till the next one. You have to have contingency plans for life's unexpected twists. Know what you will do when these things happen. Having a plan empowers you.

Save money! Even if it is only $10 a paycheck, put it away, never to be touched except in a dire emergency. When your car breaks down, or your refrigerator quits, you'll be glad you have it. You have to learn to budget, especially on a minimal income. If it isn't essential, cut it out. Food, shelter and adequate clothing are essential. Fast food, designer clothing, and pedicures are not. Not saying you indulge in any of those, but you get my point. Brown bag your lunch, buy clothes at Goodwill (they have great stuff, super cheap!), do your own nails, if that's something you feel the need for.

I raised two healthy, happy, well-adjusted young people. My son is a Staff Sergeant in the US Army. My daughter has an excellent job, is working on her Master's degree, and has a brilliant, healthy, happy son of her own. They grew up without a lot of luxuries my parents could have provided, and they are better for it! They learned that it takes hard work to get what you want, nobody owes you anything. I stood up, got a grip on my life, and did what I had to do to raise them right! If I can do it, anybody can. You just have to make up your mind to grow up and do it.

Good luck to you.

I agree with others here.1 do NOT allow your parents to take your child for 4 yrs much less out of state for that long or ever! You would likely lose your parental rights under the child abandantment act. 2 it's too late to worry about having a child out of wed-lock. it's already water under that bridge, just deal as best you can and provide a clean,loving home for your baby.

SWEET MILDRED IS MY LEADER...CRAWL INTO OUR PLAYPEN...

I think you need to have more faith in yourself and stop listening to people that constantly tell you that you 'can't' or 'shouldn't'.

You are a Mom now and that is your primary focus.

If you and your man are doing fine I'm sure he would be good with providing some financial support for you and his baby until you marry and move in together.

Seek some local guidance through a women's group or community services office to help you move towards independent thinking.

You are now a parent and need to do what is best for your son. If you don't want him moving with your parents, simply tell them no. They can't force you to let him go and are not legally allowed to remove him without your permission. I don't see the problem here. You said you're a grown woman, act like one. Make this decision and stop acting like you're still your parents little girl.

Millions of people are single parents. I've done it for 7 years, since my daugher was 4 and my husband passed away. You find reliable childcare and work, or finish school. Part of the problem is you've relied on them for so long, they don't think you can do it...and I'm skeptical too. You need to prove to them that you can.

If I were in your shoes I would be working 4 job if necessary to provide for my child. DO NOT allow your parents to take this baby. If you allow it, you may have to fight for custody and you might not win. Pull yourself up, encourage the baby daddy to be the father this child needs. It's an absurd offer, don't even consider it unless you can not take care of your son.

Is there a reason you are not telling us which makes them want to take the boy from you and his father? I am shocked that you are worried about hurting your parents' feelings. Normally, people have children so they take care and love their children and are responsible for them not so they give them to their parents!

They can try...the courts will dismiss their case.

You would have to be proven unfit. If you don't have a history of drug abuse, neglect, or a violent nature...I really wouldn't worry. Let's say you were unfit...then the custody would default to the other parent and they would have to prove that the father was unfit too.

Don't worry about what they want...they won't get it.