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Very confused about my gender?
I've never felt comfortable being a girl, and I've often fantasized about what having male parts would be like. I wear skirts and stuff right now, but I feel like I'm only doing it to make my parents happy. I feel extremely uncomfortable in them, not like they don't fit right, but like they're not right for me. I used to dress like a guy, and I felt more comfortable than than I do now.
I'm just very confused about whether I want to be a guy, or if it's just that I'm a very boyish girl. Any help appreciated. Thanks in advanced!
I'm already eighteen, I just live at home.
11 Answers
- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
Your parents should accept you no matter how you choose to dress, let alone how you feel about your gender. Though, I know thats not always the case! My advice to you would be do what makes you feel most comfortable. If you don't feel comfortable in skirts, don't wear them! It's your body, you decide what you wear.
There are lots of girls (who identify as girls) who wear unisex clothing (baggy jeans and tshirt?).
Wear the clothing that makes you happiest!
After a while you will know if its right for you to begin transitioning or not.
- Anonymous10 years ago
I can totally relate!!! I would suggest you google and read about "gender queer" as well as transgender so that you get an understanding for the differences and figure out what feels to you most like what you might be/are. I'm gender queer female, I wear gender neutral clothes, I woudn't be caught dead in a skirt, high heels, dresses or makeup, yet I'm straight but well I read a subcategory that appears to pertain to what I am and I was shocked. Whenever a guy asks me out, I'm puzzled because in my mind I am one of the guys. I can't stand to carry a purse because "that would be gay" (if you can figure out what I mean, you'll understand). I also have super long hair and can't stand short hair. I have never shopped men's clothes (except for a skinny tie in the 80's) because I feel that would be gay as well. But I have a heck of a hard time finding acceptable gender neutral clothes. I am not attracted to women, I am super repelled by them, and quite possibly the reason I have such a hard time with my gender: I find everything about being female totally gross. Well Idk if this will help but just to let you know, there are some of us out there who can relate. :) Take care!
ETA: you also didn't mention anything about sexuality, just gender that's why I'm referring you to read up on "genderqueer". Because I don't think your question pertains to your being straight or lesbian at all. You might even be asexual.
- Anonymous10 years ago
Don't listen to the first person...this isn't about homosexuality and your choice of clothing doesn't make you a homosexual. There isn't anything wrong with that either.
It's all about how you define yourself as a person. If you define your femininity by wearing "masculine" clothes then that's fine. There is nothing wrong with that. Do what makes you happy and don't go against what feels right. If it is concerning you...well, your opinion and taste in clothing may change as you get older anyway.
- ?Lv 510 years ago
Well, I'm not a girl, but I don't think not wanting to wear skirts makes you want to be a boy. It's 2011 you know, tons of girls wear pants these day, some of them can even vote too!
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- 10 years ago
Just because you like boyish clothes doesn't mean you want to be a boy. It's natural to wonder what it's like to be a girl.. ^^
- Anonymous10 years ago
Do what makes you happy! BUT; you obv have to follow your parents rules till your old enough to move out and such but try compromising till then, ask to not get SUCH girly clothes. But you gotta listen to your parents till your 18, that's just how it is unfortunately.
- 10 years ago
your just a girl who likes to wear boy clothes nothing wrong with that its just you you were born that way
- Liz OLv 510 years ago
Just because you prefer 'male clothes' doesn't mean that you 'want to be a guy'.
- Anonymous10 years ago
Homosexuality is all about a lustful "choice" and nothing else. We are all created heterosexual. So seek help with your confusion.