Need some help please .. woman from US studying in India.. serious trouble.?

First of all I apologize on their behalf because I am an Indian. I feel really bad that a guest in our country is getting humiliated. I wish I could help you out out-there but unfortunately I am far away from there.

The main reason for such a behaviour is illiteracy. Those small kids did it because their parents are illiterate ( i am sure ).

Second reason is both the parents work, so there is no time to impart some social education in their children.

If you are planning to launch a complaint, in my opinion i wouldn't really help you (sorry) because you will face these problems every now and then. How long will you keep complaining?

You are targeted because people know you are alone here. On the other side Indian women is usually supposed to have some relative with them.

My Point of View :- According to what you have written here, you give signs of weakness to others like walking with your eyes down which portrays you as an easy prey.

Solution- ( I know it is easy to say then doing but these will help you ).

1) Be confident while walking or doing anything.

2) Don't focus on people around looking at you.

3) If they try to tease you or touch you, just say NO with force.

4) Try to roam around in groups or at-least with a girl. ( you must have seen that Indian girls usually roam in groups )

5) Keep Police's phone number on speed-dial in your phone so that you can make a call just with a single button.

6) If things really go bad, go to Police for sure.

This is all that I can do while sitting here.

If you still need some help, you can mail me through my Yahoo Answers profile. I would be happy to help you.

Once again extremely sorry for whatever those people have done to you.:-(

I feel sorry for your situation. I am Indian and having lived in a city, I know how men behave. First off staring is common, everybody stares at everybody, even more if you are a foreigner. Also, men pass comments even at local women. They also think white western women are loose and are always looking for sex. Boys are treated better by moms than daughters and any kind of incident is usually blamed on the woman for dressing "provocatively". It does not matter in your defense, you are fully clothed. Buses, public places, hell even temples! These men are just ***** and teasing is common. I wish men behaved better in India. I urge you not to travel alone at nights in dark alleys.

The best you can do is to ignore the talk(wear a headphone and listen to music) and if anyone touches you, do not hesitate to yell or even slap the person. People note this and the man is usually embarrassed, even if people do not actually do anything.

I also suggest you ask the help or discuss the situation with a few of your friends/ acquaintances, particularly girls.

Lastly, don't think the cops will help you with such teasing, although by law, eve teasing is an offence.

Putri is correct. If you're in a college, you make some good friends there and be with them. Don't be shy and weak. These are not good charactersticks. Be powerful, lady and you should know how to kick these kinda people. I apologise that such incident occured and I do understand that apology doesn't work. The thing is just that you should know how to react. Be candid and open. It's nothing like you can't wear short clothes but the thing is you react on these situations immediately so that the one who has evil in his mind never get a chance to get the control over you. Take care. Best wishes :)

I am an Indian girl and please let me share my experience

Being a very shy girl, I always never looked at any person while walking on the road, and never made any type of eye contact. I just felt very shy. While traveling in the bus to and from school I used to get harassed. I felt really bad and after a while I just got afraid to even try and get onto a bus. Seeing that I always walked home from school by myself, some guy stalked me. I got really angry but still, all I felt I could do was cry. I hated going to my school, and often took a longer route, just to avoid the guy.

Then one day while the same guy followed me. I mustered the courage and shouted at him to get away from me. I remember those words coming out of my mouth only as a slight squeal. But, it seemed to have had an effect as the guy just turned back and that was the last time I saw him.

Its been five years now. I now realize that men only target women who show themselves as weak and vulnerable. Nowadays, I walk with my head held high, take a look at my surroundings and talk to myself to not be afraid as I can always fight back. Even if I am only shouting, It will definitely have a response from those who are nearby.

Just don't feel shy and talk with your friends from college. They will surely help you out. This is because it is better to pour out your emotions to a friend than on the internet. Also, many girls in India do face harassment (though what you are going through is even more atrocious). They may be able to accompany you home, or even show you a better route to take home.

Take a class in karate, or any martial arts. Nowadays whenever I feel a person is too close, I just push them away from me. You have to do something to protect yourself. No one can punish these kinds of people. They are just everywhere. All we can to is make ourselves strong, and make our voice heard.

I read in a recent statistics that one in three women has been molested in India. This statistic did not shock me. It may shock the men. Most women in India suffer this silently. Even the educated people think that it is only okay for boys to behave like that. (eg. Boys will be boys). All I can think of is that until women reach the top positions in all the places, our voices will always be silenced by the men surrounding us.

You can live a peaceful life, if you really want. You may find a place in this world where people do not harass you. But what is life without any kind of problem, or without any fight?. Don't ever lose your courage. This is your life. Enjoy it, don't let anyone ruin it. :)

there r some cheap peoples and some good peoples too...i think u should make some good local friends from india girls or boys...mostly preferable girls .most of time be with them .they will help u out to tackle this things easily and frankly speaking u should not mind any assholes word and get hurt-ed because of some assholes.....u should try to be strong and just don't listen to anyone who doesn't have standard ....and the way of ur thinking that only u is wrong this peoples even harass indian women's too they just don't care and just do there work....don't feel bad thinking that its u...y spoiling ur mood because of some assholes and frankly speaking this peoples also just say and forget and don't care....so u should also get that habit of don't care with any shits......u don't know them they don't know u....so y minding there words....anyway my first suggestion will be make some indian friends and be with them this ill help u lot to understand how to tackle this type of situations....u may be good looking that's y this guys stare u and don't consider those things....good-looking things r made to see and feels good to eyes.so they just stare u cause u r good looking and blond....anyway hope this will help u all the best and be strong from inside....

first of all i would like say that i m an Indian and i m really really sorry for that.

i really feel sorry for that you are facing these problems in my country...

those people who are disturbing you, they have never seen a blonde girl before.

they just had Dirt in their mind.

I Would give you one suggestion that you make some good friends in your Institute ( Coaching Centre ) or whatever it is called.

and ask them to walk you by home.

there must be some good people in you institute i m pretty sure about this.

i do live so far from Mumbai, i m in New Delhi, otherwise i should have definitely helped you about this.

I hope this would help you...

please let me know your feedback about this...

Instead of explaining it here , explain to ur mom and go back to usa. United sex association. I m indian. We never complain when we face racsim in usa or even get killed. So better stop spreading stereotypes and face the problem. Or run to usa.

This is not uncommon. They are trying to get your goat - and they are being successful. You need to develop a hard shell. they are being azzholes. Tell them that.

and don't think they don't harass Indian women - they do.

if you're feeling unhappy and not safe you shouldn't have to stay in that situation. try contacting your university and get a transfer back to your home or somewhere you feel safe.

move away from india