Simple question about red flags in a relationship?

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I am curious, when I view multiple sites about red flags to look out for in a relationship, not so much how she treats YOU, but how she acts in general like being insecure, fighting with family and friends, complaining all the time, etc. my ex who I broke up with was like this. Of course she had a lot more problems, and the deal breaker that made me break up her was that when her car broke down for a month I drove hundreds of miles giving her rides to work and school, but when I needed a ride down the street to drop off my car to get new tires, she said she couldn't wake up that early. Not to mention two weeks before she took a girlfriend of hers to an airport even earlier.  So I do not need someone who will not be there for me the ONE time I ask for a favor, seriously I do not ask for favors. 

However does that mean there is a guy out there who will accept this behavior and not mind?  Or will she change or act fake long enough to get someone else?  Because she learned a lot of mistakes from our relationship that I am sure she will not repeat like trashing his house, talking about her past how she smoked weed and cheated on guys, etc.

Your_Favorite_Auntie · Accepted Answer

Hello Dear ~

It's a sad fact of life that for most men, the little head does the thinking for the big one. However, recognizing the problem is often the first step in finding it's solution. Since you've acknowledged the real cause of your woman troubles, it should be pretty easy to find a better girl next time.

Next time you're at the mall, do us both a favor, and find a bench to sit on for a few minutes. While you're sitting there sipping a coke, LOOK AROUND!  Notice all of the couples holding hands - especially the ones that aren't drop dead, jaw-dropping.

All of these people have something in common: They were able to see past what's on the surface.  Once you master this very important life skill, you'll find the right girl for you. I'll give you a hint: She's not drop dead jaw dropping gorgeous ... not at first. She'll have the kind of beauty that gets better every time you look at her. You won't notice anything that remarkable at first, but you'll find yourself unable to stop looking at her just the same. She's the one who makes you THINK, and who makes you laugh. Once you find that, you won't be able to stop looking at her.

Love,
Auntie

? · Answer

Things are over for you two. She has shown no love nor respect towards you. If you told her why you are breaking up, she could possibly change for her next relationship.

If she doesn't change, there will be a man for her. He will put up with her, and she will put up with him. There are couples out there who accept each others flaws. In her case, a guy can cheat, party a lot without her, etc and still deal with her attitude. It's all about accepting a person completely. Since you don't accept her for who she is at the moment, move onto the next!

M. M · Answer

It depends on the person...she MAY have learned her lesson after losing you and work on being better the next time around. ORRR she may still be clueless and think she is right and continue on with this behaviour until she falls flat on her face.

Anonymous · Answer

wow she is not a mature woman

please dont waste your time with her

REAL women are not like this, we actually have morals and a heart.

? · Answer

Who cares. "She" is never going to love you for you anyway.

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