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Do YOU think there is something wrong with me, because my parents sure do?
I will make a long story short here: I'm turning 17 next week, I've never had a boyfriend, my family is putting immense pressure on me to just get a date already, and I want them to just leave me the hell alone.
Does this mean that there is something wrong with me?
I'm sick of them constantly critiquing my personality, saying that I'll never get a guy with the way I act (I'm very shy). I'm sick of them saying that most girls my age have boyfriends (which btw, I don't think is true, as most of my friends and most of the girls I know are single). I'm sick of them worrying about me and thinking that I will end up alone for all eternity or end up with some loser out of desperation like some of the people they know who they say are "just like me."
Normally, parents should be yelling at you to do your homework or apply to college, not yelling at you to get a boyfriend.
To be honest, I don't like anyone at the moment, and feel no need to get myself some random boyfriend just for the sake of having one and appeasing my family. I'm not going to go around and flirt with every guy out there. If I do ever get a boyfriend (which according to my parents will never happen unless I change dramatically), I want a real relationship, not a few dates and text messages.
So, is there something wrong with me? Should I have some dating experience by now and should I be concerned that I will end up alone forever?
I apologize if this sounds like some melodramatic rant.
I think they don't lecture me about grades or school though because I'm already an honors student/psychopath and "obsessed" with getting good grades. So I guess they aren't too concerned with that.
5 Answers
- DragonsnatchLv 710 years agoFavorite Answer
Of course there is nothing wrong with you.
If you don't know anyone you're interested in romantically, you shouldn't date. Period.
I mean - weird. My parents would have been totally psyched if, instead of focusing on boys, I had worked harder in school. Iguess the grass is always greener, you know?
There are no hard and fast timelines for falling in love, for sexual experiementation - for any of it. I guess I would just come up with a gentle but firm tolken response for the next (billion) time(s) they give you a hard time about it - something like "I haven't fallen in love yet. Until then, I'm not going to sell myself short".
*Shakes head*. Your parents are lucky if this is, in fact, their greatest concern for you. 17. My God.
- ChristineLv 710 years ago
I didn't date until I was in college, and then only because I thought that's what I was "supposed" to do. But I found out that guys generally are just in it for the sex. They are irresponsible and don't care if you get pregnant or they or you get an STD. You don't need to date until you are looking for a husband, and that may be a decade from now. You don't have to have sex with them to have a successful date. The good ones are worth waiting for. You might tell your parents next time they badger you that you are waiting for the right guy to come along. There is nothing wrong with you. In fact, you're a lot more mature than most of the kids who post questions Yahoo Answers.
- Anonymous10 years ago
That's absolutely silly. I think there's plenty of people who don't really date much in high school. It's not even important, anyway. If you do date someone, they should like you for you. You shouldn't change to get a boyfriend, of course not. They wouldn't like you for you, then.
That's such a stupid thing for them to get on you about. It's not even a big deal. Some people just don't feel like dating in high school for whatever reason, and I'm glad that you're not determined to get one now just because your parents say you should.
You'll find someone. And when you do, they'll like you for you because you haven't changed yourself for them. Your parents seriously need to back off and realize that there are more important things than getting a boyfriend. That's crazy.
- valeLv 45 years ago
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- Anonymous10 years ago
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Just tell them that you're trying to focus on school right now and you don't want to get pregnant.