It would be Cheating wouldn't it?

So ive seem to have gotten myself in a bind by dating two guys at once and some how becoming deeply involved with both of them. However, I never gave either of them an answer to the girlfriend question yet. Andthey both are never around really because one is in the Navy and the other is a businessman that travels alot. One just told me that he loves me, but I honeslty don't know what to think at this point. Kinda just want to date, but since one of them sliped the love word I now feel like I am cheating on him if I go with the other one. (ugh what a pain)