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Do you ever feel this way about your spouses past?
Ok we have been together 3yrs almost and married 8 months and I used to be EXTREMELY insecure and jealous (because he had emotionaly cheated on me (via skype and text) and so it took a bit to get over but obviously we did and we married. Now we joke and laugh about his past and really I've gotten over it. But every once in a VERY great while I get pissed and upset about what he did and not only that I just saw this picture of him and one of his ex's kissing that he didn't know he had still on facebook (he rarely checks it) and I don't know I just got really upset..not at him or anything..just upset, I'm over it already it was just a short burst of WTF..and then I let it go and he delteted it.
But does any other couple get like this at all if you've been in a bad situation before marriage (cheating, playboys, men like that) and some moments when you just sitting there you think about it and get upset?!? I didn't now if this was normal or not...like I said I've gotten past it and dragging it out and being insecure and moopy etc. But still...is it normal?
3 Answers
- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
to my ex hubby of 11 yrs, no.
he never gave me a reason to doubt his devotion
he can be emotionally mentally abusive and that's why we didn't last
but cheating? never. he is into money, not women.
everyone else I've been with, yes
that's why I didn't marry them and didn't stay friends after break up
once the trust is gone, it never comes back
so in a way I never had to deal with someone's past in regards to cheating
- Jack BentLv 410 years ago
I thin deep down you know once a cheater always a cheater (emotional or not). You like/love him but he's a schmuck.
You have a little PTSD from the past crap he held and you're probably a possessive/jealous girl by nature.
Try to get some therapy. I don't know otherwise. i think you still get uspet because down the line, maybe 10 years or so, you're going to think you shouldn't have wasted your life on him and wished you waited out for someone better. He will probably emotionally cheat again and you will one day catch it after the honeymoon and 7 year itch has past.
It pains you because his emotional cheating and lack of consideration (the FB kissing pic) is so big and deep down you kow the potential of more.
- Anonymous10 years ago
If it's in the past, then stop and move on. Do not nag about it. Accept it or leave.
Stay positive. Hold your head up high. Take care of yourself. If he does anything out of line, put your foot down!
The hard part is letting the pain and hurt go. Try not to nag, try not to fight about it, and realize that in the end, it's either acceptance or departure!