Iam hurt by my mother in law & sister in laws?

This is the common problem that many daughters in law are facing. "for no mistake of mine", "mother in law is over possessive"... Good..Try to understand the problem as if you are mother n law and she is daughter in law . A major part of your problem will get diluted and you will feel fresh. The particulars mentioned here are not enough to advise you a solution. What is the stand of your better half on this issue? Is you M-I-L is co.operative in other thing except her over possessiveness? Your sisters in law , what is their role ? Discect the problem analytically and you will find solution of your own.Be positive and face the problem darely. Don't lose hope .Good future is behind you.

This woman sounds like her motto is: If I have but one life to live, let it be yours. You have to set boundaries for when she can visit and be willing to take the flack when she gripes about it. Don't give in. This woman is acting like a spoiled brat but she is your husband's mom so you can't just throw her out but you can set visiting times that fit your schedule. Your husband gave up being her only son when he married you. Now he is your only husband and everyone else has to take a back seat to the fact that you are a couple. She needs to be disciplined in how she uses the two of you to fill her life. It is unfair to you and to your husband.

If your husband will not support this effort, tell him that his choice is to go back to being her only son because you will not allow your life to be run over by her needs.

Talk to your husband about and see if he can talk to her. It would be better coming from him than you. You need to be transparent in the situation. If he is able to talk to his mom about it make sure he uses "I feel ___ when you ___" Because when you marry someone you become "one flesh." Therefore if she is hurting you, she is also hurting him. He needs to tell her it's hurting him, she might be mad right away, but she's his mother, she will get over it with time. However, if he is unable to stand up to his mother, then you need to tell her "I feel ______ when you_____" and come up with a solution. Set boundaries of visiting times and make sure BOTH your husband and you follow through with those set times. Something simple as we only want visitors Sunday afternoons, and please call ahead of time to make sure we are home and don't have something planned. If she shows up unannounced outside of "visitor" hours simply say, "I'm sorry we aren't accepting visitors right now, we have other things that need to be attended to." I'm sorry you are going through this, I'm also dealing with a difficult mother in law right now and have researched articles on the subject - this is the best I can come up with from what I've read. I'm including a link that has cause and effect situations with a mother in law. Best of luck.

Dear Buddy,

You are not the lone Daughter-in-law suffering and you are one among the many. However, now-a-days the mothers-in-law are suffering due to the daughter-in-law.

Try to approach her through the well wishers and elders and this would work out.

Best of Luck.

Regards & May God Bless

G Senthil Iyappan

have a talk with her about personal space everybody owns some and it's different with everybody explain to her your needs in this area and tell her it is a matter of respecting each other be nice and smile but make sure your eyes are firm during the eye contact practice in the mirror

The life tests our nerves. Actually I have no words for your problem but I have been suffering for my sister who also have a same story. Only thing I can tell you be patient, but if it goes beyond limit then protest it. Life becomes more sweet if we have a supportive life partner with us. Share your feelings with your hubby and if he fails then be strong and face the life.

human beings say dumb issues in anger. only supply them some area and enable them to return to you. some human beings only think of they're better than others. Others have the form of misserable existence (usually of their very own making) that they at the instant are not happy until eventually human beings around them are depressing, too. possibly they're jealous of you and what you have, and so on. do no longer enable all of us thieve your excitement.

First of all try to educate them with soft words...

if things fail, approach your husband, if it's of no use..

speak to your parents or well wishers within your family / in-law circle...

God bless..

tell her to step back, and let you make your own mistakes..when you need help you will ask her for it..until then she needs to respect that you are the wife and mother to her son and grandchild!