Feel Bad About Being A Black Woman In America?

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I Feel Bad About Being A Black Woman In America?
I am really tired of bring in America because the way I am treated as a black woman, I have many European friends and men I talk to and they have not once mention my race. I hate it when I pass by successful looking white men and they try to act like I am not good enough for them. Even the black men I like only date other races ever since I was growing up. I am afraid don’t have babies. I feel like I don’t look good enough or I have to be considered mix to look attractive and I do look mix and I tell people I am and it’s sad because that’s the only time a black man seems interested in me if I am light skinned or I am looking mix, with the weave I were and I get very light in fall and winter time. I’m so tired of it I am not proud to be an American. I wish a black man would tell me I was beautiful sometimes. 

My natural beauty without the weave and make-up. I live in California also, a lot of ghetto black men try to take to everyone they see. I see a nice looking Whiteman and feel like they will never go for a girl like me. They might like me but are afraid of what they friends would say and them little rich status they have to keep with businessmen. I was abused as a child by my father and he use to tell me and my sisters he should have married a white woman, and that all black women are drama. He use to beat my mom and I started to hate black men and only looked at white guys and other races as nicer when I was younger because the white boys would not make fun of me in grade school. 

I had nowhere to go once and this white guy was looking for a roommate on craigslist and ask to see my photo after I sent it to him he act like he didn’t want to rent the room out to me, and started to change his story just based on the way I looked, I was groomed well and not looking ghetto or anything. I just feel like I am not good enough as a black woman and never will be in America for a potential first pick for a wife, a man with money or to bare children with. Even though we have a black president. I don’t know sometimes I can’t stand how rich white people act like they are better than me at my job and can’t even be friendly and say hello when I say hi to them. They just ignore me like I am not there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't feel bad black is so beautiful. nobody could take your skin color away from you. 
their are haters everywhere. I have haters everywhere in life and on the net.

Black women are a trophy for us black men. without you we would NEVER be the black men we are today. you black women helped us on our struggle and we appreciate it. I think black women for being good mother to black Kidd's and not throwing them in trash cans like white mothers and getting abortions.

I worship the ground you walk on.

Jane Doe · Answer

I understand, I grapple with the constant attacks on our self esteem, the rejection, the ridicule, the devaluation. Even those of us who haven't done anything wrong still pay the same price and deal with the same torment. We have it the hardest out of any gender/race but I'm a spiritual person and I know that the best students always have the hardest curriculum. Although life is hard, push through it because you will probably reap the greatest karma in the end.

Anonymous · Answer

Sista to Sista...

You got to start to love you. You will never experience true joy until you realize that happiness is created from within. 

What do You see when You look in the mirror? Insecurity is very unattractive. 
It does not matter where you move. Racism is everywhere. Maybe you should start to hang out at different places. Take up new hobbies. This will expand your potential dating pool.

I know how it is. Don't buy into the color division in our race. If you are not mixed, stop saying you are. Why would you want a guy who likes you for what you are not? This will only feed your negative self-image.

I want you to get up every morning and say to yourself in the mirror:
I am gifted, I am special, I am beautiful, I love myself and I deserve to be loved. 
Check out some books by Iyanla Vanzant on Amazon. She is awesome.

Peace and Love
Black is Beautiful

Anonymous · Answer

no longer Condoleezza! truly with todays attitudes her existence could be endanger if she grew to become into elected, which she would be able to no longer be. The GOP is going down, and the Dems likly have a winner this next election,possibly Hillary? i desire no longer as hse already ran the country for 8 years

Yo!Yo! It&#39;S Curly Kidd~ · Answer

But you're still alive? Still hanging on to live, right? Just keep your mind open to the world getting better and your heart to being happy

Anonymous · Answer

You just posted a question bashing black people 15 minutes ago, you're not black lol you're a troll.

Or ... you have Herschel Walker's illness.

? · Answer

if you're black then your one of the millions who self hate. 
i strongly agree with you that black men date out of their race. it;'s so disgusting

Anonymous · Answer

So weird.. i saw this exact same question a month ago....

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