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Im stuck.. who should i pick?
im in a terrible terrible position here.... ahhhh
ok so there are two guys and they both like me:
1. I have known him my whole life pretty much, and we went out a few years back, but we broke up due to an external family reason and i was i just couldnt deal with having a bf at that time. But its been two years and we stayed good friends, but for the past two months, we've been talking more and more again, and he is the nicest sweetest guy i know and he is so cute :) and he has always liked me, but he is so shy.. so things go.. quite slow haha. And i really like him and i can see us staying together for a long time :)
2. Now you know those guys that you see and they are your dream guy that you have had a crush on for the longest time,, but at the same time its like, "oh he is too good for me, he will never like me back" well this is guy number two, we have been friends for a while but just yesterday he asked me out... i said yes.... but i couldnt help feeling super guilty saying yes to that, but i thought i might as well say yes and i can always make up an excuse later depending on what i decide
So here is the problem, do i go out with my dream guy, the one that i have had a crush on for ages? or do i go out with someone that i have got to know well and that i can trust?
i hate hurting peoples feelings, and they are both my friends, like omg ?!?! what would you do?
but i feel soo bad suddenly like telling the guy number one that i like someone else... I feel like iv been building it up too much with him! but then again there is that dream guy, but i dont know him as well, nor do i trust him as much.. but like come on he is the dream guy blaahhh haha and to be honest if i go out with guy number two i dont think guy number one will want to be with me anymore if guy number two doesn't work out :'(
@paintapicture84 umm yeah by the trust thing i mean i don't know him as well. and he is like the popular kid in school, and he is super nice and we are friends, but like i think what im most worried about is that because a lot of girls like him and stuff that he might like.. suddenly stop caring about me and move on (even though he is not that type of guy... but still.. cant help but worry) where as guy number 1 is that shy guy i was talking to you about when answering your question, and i feel like i can trust that he wont run away, but then again it is to the point where he is just... soo shy... its moving so slow and a little frustrating to say the least! and i kind of want a guy that can be loud and have a little bit of fun haha but yeah.... i dont know, there are + and - in each guy.. ill wait a few more days to decide haha
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- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
finding a guy that you can trust, and who you've know your whole life, is very rare these days, and even though you broke up he remained being friends with you and helped you through the hard times.
seems like he still might like you considering hes stuck around, and if you like him back, and he stuck around then i think you should chose him, ive never found a guy who i can properly trust, yet, so you should be grateful, if you were to chose him, then explain to the dram guy that you like guy number 1 and he might understand :)
but go with your heart and whoever you like most, if you like the dream guy, then explain to the other guy this and he should understand if hes as nice as you say :)
hope ive helped a little bit :)
Source(s): me - 10 years ago
Thanks for your advice, it did help. For your question I was just wondering why you might not trust guy number 2. Do you get that vibe from him or you know something or is it like you said you think he's too good for you? I've been there, with my dream guy and I ended up losing my chance. He liked me and I was too scared. So I do regret it still. I honestly think we would be together still if I had not ruined it. But he moved on after awhile. But I think it comes down to what you want. Do you want a relationship or some fun and see where it goes. I think guy num 1 can't really be upset with you unless he felt like you led him on. He should have made a move, but maybe its better if when the both of you are older you get together. I hope that helps some.
- 10 years ago
This is hard, but I would go with the dream guy and see what he has to offer. Learning to trust someone can either be the worst or best part of a relationship you just have to take the chance
Source(s): personal experience - Anonymous10 years ago
Wow lol wish i was in ur position well the ur best freind hasent asked you out so you shouldent feel guilty about going out with ur dream guy and if u end up not liking ur dream guy give it a few months go out with you best freind simple wont hurt them and btw if ur dream guy says why when u break up say like lets be freinds or having ruff family time and need to be with family not bf hope i helped?
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- Anonymous10 years ago
honestly go with guy number 1. ur obviously having the same feelings for each other and u know him much better. ur prob gonna have a better relationship with him. whereas guy 2, u dont know much about him. so u why waste ur time right? go with ur heart actually :) but if u asked me from the situation id say guy 1.
hope u make the right choice :)
ooh and i "best answered" u :D
- Anonymous10 years ago
honestly i think guy number 1 would provide a more steady relationship, while dream guy sounds like a guy you would have fun with. What are you looking for? In my opinion i would say guy number 1.
- 10 years ago
your dream guy is usually someone you wouldn't necessary want sometimes; think about it. He's good looking, but what about inside? Some of the most ugliest personalities of guys I've ever met were gorgeous; they lived upon their good looks and didn't let the girl in their heart. Go with the guy who you know; you know his heart more than this other guy.
- Anonymous10 years ago
I would go out with nº2 (the dream guy) and if things don't turn out well, break up and start dating nº1. But if things turn out well with nº2, stay with him.
- Anonymous10 years ago
I would pick #1, I mean first off, if yall have come to know and trust eachother, then you should trust him enough to know he is not going to hurt you, and uaually the guys that it seems like thee are too good to be true, really are too good to be true...
Source(s): experiance - Anonymous10 years ago
I think you should go out with the dream guy. Worst case, if it doesn't work out, the guy you've known forever will be there for you after. (:
Source(s): Thanks for answering mine! (: