How do i stop feeling weird about this?

Just be glad that your grandma did what she did. She wanted you to have something. I don't expect to live for very many more years. I haven't been exactly told that, but I have advanced emphysema from years of smoking and I can tell. I don't have a lot in material possessions and no wealth, but I've invited my daughter and my step daughters to take anything of mine that they like especially, with the proviso that my daughter gets my opal ring, and just to be sure, I will make her take it next time I see her. Anything else I have, they are welcome to. They may feel a little weird about it, but screw it.

When my paternal grandfather died, he did have a will and made provisions for most of his possessions except for a watch. They held a sort of lottery to see which grandchild would get that watch, and I won the lottery. I barely knew my grandfather (because I'd never lived with my father) and the watch meant very little to me. It was stolen from my house in a burglary. A few years later, I found out that my older brother would have LOVED to have had that watch. How I wish my grandfather would have just given it to my brother.

Just a few words from experience.

I understand your feelings.

I think your Grandma is happy knowing some things such as the doll you picked are going to be treasured by her granddaughter. For me it would make me feel if my granddaughter wanted something I had it would cause her pleasant memories of me. I think that may be your grandma's feelings too.

Don't feel weird and realize tho sad, we all will lose people we love, like Forest Gump's momma told him, "it is just part of living".

Write a really nice note, hand write it, to your grandma and tell her you hope she lives a very long time, that you love and will cherish the doll and it will bring a happy smile to your face every time you look at it. Tell her you love her.

Honey, don feel that way! I too am a doll collector. I am 73 years old and believe I have years to go yet, but I have taken some of my dolls and wrapped them up and have names of some of my grandchildren on the boxes, When someone comes to Visit, I will give them that doll. The reason is , that is my wishes, Some of the dolls a grandchild has said they loved it at one time or another, that is why they are getting that doll. Your grandmother loves you and she wants to make sure that you get one of her dolls. Treasure that doll, and you will always have a reminder of her. I have also given dolls to one of my daughters over the years, I wanted to make sure she got them, The other daughter is not a doll lover , so I don't know if she would appreciate the doll or take care of it!

You have given her the biggest gift, at her age, that you could give her....you have allowed her the joy of giving. Nothing means as much as seeing the person pick something that needs to be passed on and seeing the receiver is pleased with the gift.

You let her know that you value her gift and by picking the one you wanted she knows it is the right one.

Good for you...you have done a good deed.

I know you are sad now but later the doll will just give joy and comfort to you.

As we all grow older and have acquired things in life, It seems that some of us get to a point where we wish to give and share freely with those we love. Sometimes its ideas, recipes and family history. Sometimes is a bought gift wrapped as a package. And sometimes it a treasured object that we are ready to pass to the next generation. I would rather share some of my treasured objects with those who would enjoy them than to have some other just sell them on Ebay. Enjoy the gift & the time spent with your grands.

Everyone here that answered your question is very wise, they are all right. Your grandma would rather her family have her personal belongings and was happy to see that you took something of her home with you. Just cherish that, and call often. That's life.

Your grandparents have wisdom and they know the reality of death coming to everyone and nearer to them. You, also, must face reality, death is a reality, enjoy your grandparents while they are alive, long distance or not, try to talk with them by telephone as often as possible. fyi, most elderly people are aware that they will not be around much longer but hopefully most of them are wrong and live many more years.

You don't need to feel strange about accepting your grandmother's gift. She wants you to have it. She knows she won't be around much longer. Offering you one of the dolls is their way of telling you.

You'll miss your grand parents. And, every time you see that doll you'll be reminded of your grandmother.

sweetie isn't it lovely that your gran wanted to be there and see which doll you would choose. my mum-in-law did that many years ago - asked me to choose two items that i wanted to have and it gave her such pleasure to be there and see what choices i made. i treasure those two items and every time i look at them i see her happy face.

so don't feel bad about it - be happy that you have had your gran in your life and realize that when she is gone from here she will still be in your heart, your soul, you will have her with you forever.

They are coming to the end of their lives. It's nothing bad and they are ready to go. You will miss them, but this is all natural and we all have to accept it as much as we accept the birth of a family member. "All things must pass."