when ever my fiance goes out he gets mad when i ask him where he was at?

Sounds like something to be worried about. You say he's reconnected with a friend who got him into drugs? It could be that he's seen the error of his ways and is trying to get his friend off drugs and too scared too tell you the truth. There is also a chance he's doing drugs himself. Either way you owe it to yourself to find out. Don't be scared to dig thinking he's going to get mad at you. You are just concerned for his well being, and for yourself and the rest of your family as well. In the end he will understand why you did what you did. One of the biggest mistakes people make concerning drugs and loved ones is sitting around hopping things will patch themselves up. Less than 10% of drug users stop by themselves. The other 90% need help.

Well im married now 13 years and i kinda went thro the the same thing for a few years..and usually getting mad means they are lieing..my husband used to get mad and couldnt look at me wen talking...its a HARD thing to go thro i know.and some people are going to say u should leave him and all that.but i didnt give up on mine and we are the best friends we was..he calls on his way home from work and we dont even argue...i started supporting him instead of getting mad..and and b4 that i was so lost about it cuz he was messed up bad on prescription meds..like badly.. and i thought he was a ticking time bomb i thought we were about over and because he was on probation i thought its only a matter of time and he'll be in jail then i can leave..well i ended up cheating on him and he asked me if i did and i simply said YES i did.!!! and he started getting mad then calmed and knew y.he got clean and realized i am not sitting aroundf like duhhh..i started supporting him and all that..it took time and patients but its great now...what i did was i didnt know so i followed him a couple times...sounds bad i know..but i wanted to know in what way i was being betrayed! i was 99.9% sure i was and i was right.but if u really love him and care and see forever with him i say TRy.. do what u can..unless it gets violent and other stuff gets too bad where u know kids shouldnt be around and theres just know way...good luck

It sounds like you need to take a break from him. Tell him what's bugging you, without your kids hearing it. Ask him to meet you someone public, preferably not in a place where your friends hangout, and beforehand make a little list of what you are going to say. Keep to the facts, guys like it simple and straightforward and hopefully you won't get emotional. I think dealing with the problem is important before you get married. Also you might call around and find out about Pre-marriage counseling on a sliding scale. It's better you try to deal with these problems before they cause you and your fiance grief and sadness. Your kids will thank you later, too.

O.K., I get it's possible he is using. I get that it's also possible he is cheating. However, I also get that keeping tabs on your spouse all the time can make him feel like he has no freedom. He ought to be able to have a few hours off once in awhile where he doesn't have to explain his whereabouts like he is a child or under house arrest.

So, here's what you do, you trust him! You apologize, tell him you were wrong for not trusting him. Tell him also that if it turns out he is lying to you, that he is using or cheating, then that's it, you will just have to leave and the engagement will be off because a relationship without trust is no relationship at all.

Honestly I have been through this myself with my EX husband. We were together for 5 years and we both went to rehab. After getting out of rehab he would take off and not even tell me he was leaving. He wouldn't answer his phone while he was gone and he refused to tell me where he was. I ended up finding out that he was using drugs again and around his old using buddies. What your fiance is doing is wrong and if you are going to marry this man he needs to be respectful and let you know where he is going. Not because you are nosy or controlling but because you care and want to know encase something happens to him. I guarantee that he is using again and that is why he is being so secretive. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him how it is and how it will be. Do not let him do this to you because if you continue to he will see that he can hide anything he wants from you and you will never do anything about it. I wish you the best of luck!

The secretive behaviour is a classic sign of addiction.

They get snappy when they perceive a threat to their drug use.

He needs help.

Can you get a non druggy friend of his to talk to him?

He probably wont listen to you.

You also contact your local Addiction Counselling Centre and get guidance from them about intervention.

Good luck and best wishes.

Dont ask him, when he come home just ignore him. He will feel guilty and eventually tell you what he was up to.

If he wants to stay clean he needs to stop hanging out with users they will offer it too him and it will be hard to resist.

Likely because you are making it sound like an allegation that he is cheating on you. Men do not react in the same manner as women in this.

If you live with an addict, there will be, every day for the rest of your life, the chance that he will go back to it. He doesn't sound worth the trouble.

if he is being loud like that it is only a matter of time b4 he gets violent.

u should make him choose if he wants drugs or u